Almost three short montha ago my boyfriends 3 Year old baby girl was hit by a car and it took her life instantly. Him and I have been in a relationship for two and a half years and I've helped and acted like a mother to her the whole time. I'm grieving the loss of her and also the unexpected loss of my father in february, I knew my boyfriend was not greiving properly but just four days ago we had a small normal relationship fight and he left me and our son we have together because he said he needed to deal with things alone. I understand he needs to grieve but im worried on the way he's doing it. He will not except help of any kind and makes me feel as if I've done something wrong. He says he doesn't know if he'll ever come back to our relationship. Says he still loves me and all but can't be with me but also doesnt want anyone else. I'm so confused. I do not want to move on amd not wait for him bur he's telling me to saying if he decides he needs me he'll call and see if I still want him
He is a wonderful father to our son and also his other son who He has with the same woman as he did his daughter. Hes never acted like our relationship was bad or that he wanted out and its like he woke up and couldnt be here anymore. I don't know how to be there for him and he won't open up or show emotionalabout anything claiming he's numb. He's never been away from our son this amount of time and is just being all around a different person. I need to know how to help him. To continue trying to be there or pull away and move on so he can have his space as he asked. I do not mind to wait aside from the intense agony of dealing with both deaths then the loss of him but I cant wait around for forever and make my son suffer from my emotions to.
