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lattiee

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    05-07-15
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    Riverstone Hospice Billings,MT

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  1. lattiee

    Heartbroken how do i carry on

    Sorry for your loss .
  2. lattiee

    Nagging 20/20 guilt over loss of dog

    Abby I'm sorry for your loss of your Titus he such a beautiful dog !
  3. When Fuzzy our guinea pig was alive he and Mr. Blackie got along so well they could snuggle together , sleep together , Fuzzy would even chew Mr. Blackie fur and his claws without even a movement from Mr. Blackie. Here are Mr. Blackie and Fuzzy the guinea pig close bonding relationship with no issues with fuzzy 4 yrs and 3 months with us as it's been more than a year since Fuzzy passed away exactly like 15 months today since Fuzzy been gone . We ended up adopting Boogies & Poppy on Jan 4, 2017 . They turned 1 yrs old on Oct 4 , 2017 and been with us for more than a year and Mr. Blackie still tries to go after them when they are in their cage even when they are sleeping in their boxes or in their igloo with head sticking out the door Mr. Blackie will either try to stick his paw in the cage or totally go pouncing at the cage ! We continously shoo him away say No ! But he still continues so many times I wonder why ? Mr. Blackie is 12 now soon to be 13 . He will turn 13 in April . So Mr. Blackie knew Fuzzy since he was 7 yrs old up to 11 yrs old. They were total buds ! So now why does Mr. Blackie want to be so after Boogies & Poppy even when they are just laying there in their cage doing nothing ? Is it jealously , Is it grief ? Is it because before we adopted Boogies & Poppy we tried a cat which was an adult female cat who didn't like Mr. Blackie one single bit which Mr. Blackie never ever have seen an adult cat ever he saw a kitten awhile back that we helped until we got her off to a rescue place as she was only 4 wks very underweight . So then we had to tell them the adult female cat wasn't working along with the female cat being a Bombay my son was seriously allergic to that type of cat he had to take his inhaler 3 times a day !! Boogies & Poppy would never be able to be this close to Mr.Blackie even when we ended up with a Picture of Boogies and Mr.Blackie in the same picture it was a pretty big space which Mr. blackie was sitting next to my son and getting petted by him..
  4. lattiee

    Relationship questions

    I would say both as in actual situation that I'm just pondering about the actions of the cause & effect to relate in a belief of bad feelings still harboring and how can it cause problems with the DIL & SIL when the SIL doesn't have anything against the DIL even when the DIL is cold to her SIL . So then I start wondering in questionable ways like in the future like for example what if I ended up dealing with a relationship that gained step kids or if a similar thing happened with my son how would I be able to go oh the past is the past your back together with my son again so I'm happy that my son is happy because of that which is probably what I would think I would do
  5. I'm starting to ponder things about with relationships like when it deals with people who you date , who you are related too as with outcomes as for example like if someone son had a long term gf who dumped him down the road broke his heart which made that boy mother be so mad at the girl who hurt her son it's like with the feeling how dare you destroy my boy like that but then her son ends up getting back together with the gf who he marries down the road so is it possible to have a MIL dislike her DIL and still hold a grudge against her for hurting her son ? Is it possible that the DIL can feel that dislike of her and distant herself from her MIL that she ends up being cold to her MIL but also her own SIL who actually tries to be nice to her as in could the DIL assume that the SIL feels the same way as her MIL so she distant herself from her hubby family that she doesn't even want to connect with her in laws who are with her MIL side ? So could a change of relationship that had a bad beginning turn into a loss of having a positive relationship ?
  6. lattiee

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    Kay that's for sure . Plus, to me any groups that have chats should have Rules/ Guidelines listed for using the online chat so before someone joins the chat they can read the rules for the chat so they know what to do an not do to do.
  7. lattiee

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    So true and I thought that place was a good one as they had the founder on news articles . Supposedly those hosts had been on that chat for like more than 15 yrs so then you thought well they must be good ones but then down the road you find out they are not .
  8. lattiee

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    Thanks Kay no problems here on this forum .
  9. lattiee

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    This topic used to be a link to a grief loss chat that I thought was really great shared my feelings when I lost my Fuzzy as I'm a honest person. I had been so helpful with that and that had helped me out so then I had removed the link in this forum a bit after July I can't remember when I re edited it . InJuly there was a online chattter who told me she went to a candlight ceremony on that chat a hour after the usual candle ceremony which I believed that online chatter so I shared with them a week afterwards for of the extra candle ceremony which I thought I was being helpful. I told them look at the chat transcripts you will see what I'm saying is the truth even the other chatter that was there saw that person say that too. Instead the moderators turned on me telling me Don't share on here to other forums they were PM in a yelling tone going Do You understand and i'm like ???? What the heck ? That chat was the only one I knew of and then when I was sharing links another moderator who was a chatmaster at the time mistakenly assumed my links were to a online pet loss chat and if that chatmaster would had known to not be so full of sureness that they had made a mistake as all it was a link for guilt stuff but of course that chatmaster didn't even look going oh i know all about those other 'chats' and i was like that not a chat link I would say but still didn't look. I even tried to get the founder to help me to show them and she didn't . So then I thought one of the other hosts would be able to understand me instead that I emailed a host that I thought I would be able to understanding as I was honestly so upset about this online chat mistake of me not doing anything when I'm trying to prove that I didn't do anything no one would double check my links or even look at the transcript that I was in tears all about this stuff that I was saying that to that host to get such a Hatred response from her saying Don't ever email me again. I was truly broken hearted as my son was so thrilled that I was having an online people to chat with as I don't really have anyone here to share about my losses . It was like a huge blow to me as how could these people who I opened up too from Nov til the time they turned on me in July. It was like I opened up my heart to them from Nov - July then got felt like I got a Huge Stabbing in My Heart as I'm a very senstive honest person and I was so broken up about that as I would cry because I had no one to continously to chat too even my son was upset for me as he didn't like me being sad . I would search for another chat so I found one but that one was like only openeded 2 hrs a night and I needed more chatting with someone and with me helping out on the past chat was helping me heal because I was helping other people by being there at wee times of the night or during the daytime as many times I would tell the hosts that i had invited this so n so to come here during this time . I even helped try to get rid of a bad online chatter and trying to make sure he didn't say anything that would have been what the other chatters wouldn't want too see . Many of that past chat from Nov 16 to July 2017 were like your so helpful then just one time of me being helpful again sharing information caused them to turn on me . So then myself started to feel so angry at them all as I was PO'ed but surprisingly after a 2 month break I thought hey I will try to forgive and forget the whole thing as I'm one of the forgiving nature so i went on there with a different name to see that one of the mods who was the one who responded to me with such hatred was a chatmaster boy that wasn't right at all. So then I wouldn't show up when she was on til later on then when she found out that I was the former chat on there she kicked me out . I kept feeling like I couldn't get rid of this going oh how they wronged me as I was honestly feeling betrayed then still have it out against me it was shocking . So after that I started to look for bible verses on what to do with being wronged they said forgive those who wrong you and love thy enemy and bless them . Don't be out for revenge as if everyone used an eye for an eye the whole world would be blind . So I wrote the founder a email saying I forgive them for the mistakes you made about me and sent blessings to them . I ended up getting a sense of peace after that as I know that I did nothing wrong and I was honest and I know God knows that I was honest . But before I did that I couldn't get over it of how upset I was of that but once I did that forgiving I found peace so I'm not that upset about that online chat anymore as what I say to myself it's their loss for losing a very good sweet person.
  10. lattiee

    My girlfriends feelings changed?

    I'm sorry for your relationship issues with your ex as I think with relationships after loss or a fear of losing someone they are afraid to reconnect to a relationship and that makes it a complicated grief because it's sudden, hurtful and confusing . My ex and I had experienced losses of course are relationship didn't last and he turned out to be one of those deadbeat dads. Some of my other family members have faced losses broke up then got back together again along with getting married to have kids . While some of them have had loss got back together , married , have kids and then suffer losses after those which led them to a divorce while others didn't divorce . Sometimes you wonder what makes some people stick together after a loss , losses or a fear of loss . when its not successful for you that you may wonder what did I do wrong but in reality there isn't anything you did wrong .
  11. lattiee

    Older Cat Dies Following Rabies Vaccination

    Monica , I'm sorry for your loss its sad as we trust our vets to do approopiate care for our furrybabies as we can't tell how they are going to react or be after a shot, medicine or even during a operation or come out of the operation like as for example I had this one guinea pig in the past who needed to get his back teeth trimmed which his other regular teeth trimming vet wasn't going to be around for another few weeks well so I took this piggy who I had rescued from a very bad place put all my effort into trying to make his life good to end up taking him to the vet a rescue in a different town recommended . I couldn't believe that rescue recommended that place it was a horrible looking dump of a place I should had walked straight out there right then & there but instead they told me they took all their rescue piggies there so I was like ok it must be fine as remember looks can be decieving so I had my special patch go to the dr to get his teeth trimmed to end up having patch come out with a huge blister on his lip turns out the vet clipped his jaw nerve which ended up paralyzing his jaw so he couldn't eat on own and he would have seizures ever since after that place which I was like Why ?? Why ? I put so much into getting him so well after his hard life with a very bad owner he was gaining weight , getting his fur back and he looked great Then to have that vet take away all of my effort which led me to have to be putting him down . So then I thought I was done with dental issues but instead our cat needed a dental cleaning along with two of his teeth pulled that were causing him major pain becaue they were highly filled with cavities it was absolutely terrible oh how I didn't want to put him thru a dental procedure after what happened with Patch but I had too put our cat thru this because his teeth were so filled with cavities that it was causing infection into his gum line which could be fatal if it isn't properly treated so then I took him there to have him get it done . The night before I was having nightmares fearing that I would lose him on the operating table or during the recovery time but I still took him there and while he was there I couldn't relax until I got our special cat back home he made it thru that one which I was thrilled about after all it was his 2nd real surgery as his previous last surgery before that was when he was being neutered. In ways I think humans are the same way besides rather they be young or old dealing with shots, operations and reactions afterwards . One of my friends he had to go thru a surgery and it took a bad turn for him that he's been in the hospital ever since July which he's finally just starting to be on the more of road to recovery. Also, like how this one of my other friend who was in the hospital was put on this medicine for her pain it caused her to have allergic reaction that she went into a coma from it and then passed away . So then when a family member got on the same medicine it was making her seriously sick but then she realized it was the medicine after she had a weird reaction from it so she requested a different one . Also , I had taken this one medicine for yeast issues for many years with no issues ever since my son was born in 2004 but come to 2015 I end up with a serious side effect from it which I couldn't understand why but it has messed up the way I speak ever since the last time I took that medicine so the dr put that on I'm allergic to that medicine now . I also wish you a Happy Thanksgiving and hope you find some peace & comfort thru out this upcoming year .
  12. lattiee

    Season of Grief - Is this "A Thing"?

    Laura, People like that all you can do is just be there for them and try to bring postivity in their life like a homemade treat , get a movie to watch together , bring some meal over either homemade or from a restaurant etc . I dealt like that with former neighbors who were like that it's tough witnessing the try for independence of being on their own but in reality some of them do need to be at a nursing home to see one of my family members that ended up in the home had hung onto hope for postivity of that he was going home soon but to have him think even a year after being in that nursing home that he was going home but then he realized he wasn't going home the depression hit him big time that he at times just shut down which is why you seem to see people in there sitting in wheelchairs looking like they are sleeping instead they just trying to shut the world out as its a spot they don't want to be at or to see which is really sad .
  13. Ausma I am sorry for the loss of your mom and the way you found her is a terrible way to find your mom then to lose her so soon after finding her like that. It's like almost what happened to my SIL but my brother found his FIL like that but sadly he was already gone by the time he was found he didn't want his wife to see her father like that it gives you a horrible flashbacks after you witness that stuff . Your also pretty young as I'm for sure you had more dreams you wanted to share with your mom as Jimmy Fallon just recentely lost his mom and he did a tribute to her on the Tonight Show it touched me deeply because he said he and his mom do the 3 I love you squeezes when holding onto the hand then when he did the last I love you squeeze on her hand and she didn't do the three I love you squeeze back he realize he was in trouble and it made me think since my mom and I do the I love you squeezes like what Jimmy Fallon mentioned it made me go wow that is something that I would miss with my mom also . Also, why did your father move back into the house when he was kicked out two years ago ? With a father being emotional abusive like that around your mom and knowing that your dad did that to your mom for many years it would definetly not help your grief any so is there any way you can get him out or is he helping with finances if not then maybe find a place of your own so you could start healing properly ?
  14. lattiee

    Lost of indenpence

    Starkiss sorry for the loss of your parents . Did you try out for the church play ?
  15. lattiee

    Physical symptoms?

    Kevin sorry for your loss of your wife . Abdomen pain is a painful thing to go thru as it makes it even harder to eat with that kinda of pain but I do agree with marty go to the dr to double check your health as when I lost my Uncle like 2 yrs ago I thought the tummy issues were just part of my grief instead it turned out I had way low thyroid levels.
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