teejay

you sound a if you may be suffering from severe depression? please seek the advice of a physician before you cause yourself to become physically ill. i understand exactually how you feel about being alone. we have so many people in our lives that ask so much from us, but give little back when we ask. that is why our pets mean so much to us. you must try to find some positve reasons why your life is valuable and why you want to carry on. do you have grandchildren that you want to see grow up?? do you have any interests that make you happy. you say you have other pets?? then you mush be strong and carry on for them, because without you they would probably suffer? god bless you!!

i want to thank all of you that took the time to post a reply to my ongoing grief. some of your advide and insight really helped. i understand that i didnt do anything to cause the accident, but i am real good at beating myself up. i still blame my neighbor for his part in the accident and really blame him for his apatheic demeanor and his inaction since it happened. i cant believe i ever considered this person a friend. i do not hate him or want any revenge, but i dont want to continue any relationship with him, because his actions prove that he was really never my friend to start with. and i have found out that he is involved in some activity that could cause him bodily harm and anyone associated with him. maybe my baby blacky had to go this way to reveal that this person is not what he seems?? i quess i'll never know, unless i pick up the paper one day and see that this person has reaped what he has sown?? god bless all of you. i only wish there were more good people like yourselves that i could choose to be my close friends and not the scum that i have foolishly trusted!! thanks!!

well it has been almost three weeks now since the tragic accident that took the ilfe of my 13 year old dog. i am so hurt inside that i can barely fuction. my wife is growing increasingly impatient with my grief and i am even considering leaving her?? you see i am not only dealing with the actual loss, but i am upset with myself because i think i could have done something to prevent the accident. we live on a quite culdesac street and my son has been walking to school for the past 6 years with no incidents whatsoever. that morning was no differnet that all of the others we had walked. sometimes we would place the dogs on a lease if we were going to go all of the way up to the busy school parking lot, but most of the time we stopped short at the school fence and my son walked the rest of the way about 100 yards by himself. i would watch him until he went inside the school and then i would walk back home with the dogs. we had never had even a close call before that day!! you see we were walking and i had my eye on my other dog which is a yellow lab about 14 years old. i wanted to make sure he didnt wander off and get lost as he had started to do now that he is so old. i thought that the 13 year old blacky was ahead of us as he usually is. my neighbor that lives at the end of the street came barreling down the street(TOO FAST I THINK!!) and i had my back turned then i heard that terrible noise and i saw blacky lying in the road. IT WAS AWFUL AND I AM DYING INSIDE JUST RELIVING THOSE HORRIBLE MOMMENTS! i rushed blacky to the vet, but it was too late!! so now i am faced with the what ifs?????????? i have started seinga grief counselor, but i really dont know if its going to help. i feel like i let my baby down by not being totally aware of the situation. i quess i just took thinks for granted and now all i have is grief and regret!! any help would be greatly appreciated. this might very well cost me my marriage of 21 years, because my wife just gets frustrated with men and we cant even talk!!! please help!!!!!!!

i really dont know what to say, since i am not that great in dealing with loss myself. have you tried any other petloss forums? the alpb.org has a chat room that meets 4 days a week and i found that to be very helpful. i understand that it hurts so bad and i wish that i knew you personally so that i could fully understand your grief. i think that in this fast paced world full of cellphones and fax machines we feel so lonely and disconnected from most of our human friends and family that are busy themselves in the so called rat race. i have sat all alone in the middle of the night crying my eyes out while the world just seems to go on. i have driven for miles and miles sometimes thinking and crying.most of us that feel so deeply for out pets are good people and i wan to believe that good people will always prevail from the tribulations of this world. maybe your baby and my baby(blacky are playing right now in heaven looking down on us trying to help one another and happy that we are?? you take care and know that many people are thinking of you tonight,. i pray that you will be able to rest and that angels will hold you tight and take some of the pain form your mind. i remember that i could not sleep for days and eventually just collapsed into a stupor. try not to be so hard on yourselve, because your baby would not want any harm to come to you. they are watching us to see if their love has taught us anything. their goodness and love is suppossed to make us a better person. they are truly angels that have touched our hearts just long enough to prepare us for our eventual journey and for that we should be grateful. take care and god bless you!!!!!!!!!!!!

my sincere heartfelt condolences to you. i too am hurting for my baby that left me on the 8th of sept. i have been hurting so much that my wife wants me to see a shrink?? i think we just get too attached to these babies, they give us so much joy and love in a world so full of hate and intolerance. a place like this where we can come to be in good company really helps. we must be strong for each other and pray that we can have the strength to carry on for those that are left here in this world. the ones that have left us know how much we loved them and want us to be happy. we really grieve for ourselves, because it we believe that there is a better place than this world and that all good animals go there then surely our beloved babies are happy sitting with the savior. yes we are selfish in that we want them to be here with us forever, but they surely have to be happier sitting with the father and all of gods creatures than being here on this troubled earth. god bless you and i pray that he will take both of our hearts and mend them and even thoughti do not know you personally i think you mush be a really good person to have loved a creature so much and surely god will bless you in every aspect of your life!!!!!!!!!!!

today it has been a week since the loss of our beloved dog blacky. i am trying to come to grips with the terrible accident that took my thirteen year old dog, but it isnt easy. i am so mad at the neigbor who is also my friend or used to be my friend that i told him i dont wAnt anything to do with him anymore. i know he didnt do it on purpose, but he really hasnt been very empathetic towards the situation and seeing him makes me angry. why am i being so crazy??? will this get better or am i a basket case for the rest of my life??????????????what would you do?????????

so sorry marie!!!!! i wish i knew you personaly so that i may give you a hug(we all need that sometimes). unfortuantely i will not tell you taht all people show the same feelings and empathy for the loss of a pet or even a human family member. some people just dont care!!!!! but you are here with those of us that feel the same as you. that is why we sought out a forum like this so that we could be in good company. continue to express your grief and seek out those that understand and avoid those that dont. i shed a tear for you as i write this because i have been exactly where you are now. please take care and remember that eventually your good memories of your beloved baby will overtake the quilt and the pain you feel for the loss. until then god bless you!!!!!!!!!!!

on friday the 8th of sept.06. my families world was thrown into a tailspin. our beloved dog blacky was stuck by a a neighbor not paying attention driving in our culdesac. yes i know that some will admonish me for not having him on a leash all of the time, but our street is a dead end and few people drive on the street and if they do they go slow watching for children and pets that usually play. we like to walk my son to school through the woods that has no traffic. somehow blacky darted out in front of my so called friend and was severely injured. i picked his motionless body out of the road and rushed him to the nearest vet. unfortunately it was too late. we had this baby for 13 years, he had came to us when we lived in another state and became a part of our family. his previous owners did not care for him and were very apathetic when i tried to give him back to them. so we decided that he would be our baby!! we have lived on this quite street on the back side of the school for 6 years and no ones animals have ever been hurt. i constantly watch out for everyones children and animals, but unfortunately my so called friend did not show the same concern. now my 13 year old son is devastated. blacky was his one and only brother and they were inseperable. i feel so much grief for blacky's loss, but what really hurts is seeing my son hurting so bad and not being able to take it away like any loving daddy would do!! please pray for my family and especially my son. he is in the early stages of grief. and while i have experienced loss of a pet before this is his first terrrible experience with it. i am truly dying inside. what else can i do??? most people tend to trivialize a pets death and that makes me angry at them and the whole insesitive world we live in!!!!!!!!!