I lost my husband Clay who was my soul mate, best friend, suddenly on August 29th. He was 63, I'm 56. He woke up that morning and said his tongue was numb and he was slurring his words. He thought he was having a stroke. He arrived at the hospital at 9:00 a.m. He had been having some usual stomach problems for a few days and that was it. They couldn't get a temperature reading the conventional way because it was so low - 95 degrees. His blood pressure was normal - great in fact. His white blood cell count was through the roof and his lung x-rays came back highly abnormal. His lungs sounded good though - he was getting good air exchange. They started him on a mega dose of antibiotics to try and stabilize the blood. They admitted him and said he would probably be there 4-5 days until they diagnosed what was wrong. Once he was in his room with the nurses making him comfortable and doing everything that they do, we decided I should go home, let the dogs out and bring back his blanket and pillow. I hugged and kissed him, told him I loved him and the last thing I heard as I went out the door was "I love you". No sooner did I get home than the hopsital called and said they had moved him to ICU and I had better come back. I was there within 10 minutes and he was already unconscious and intubated. He had coded right after I walked out the door and was without oxygen for 10 minutes until they were able to stabilize him somewhat. His body was so septic that all his major organs were shutting down. They told me to talk to him - that he would hear me. I held his hand and told him not to go, I loved and needed him. I was hoping for a gentle squeeze of my hand, but nothing happened. He coded again and they were able to bring him back. At that point it was decided that if he coded again, I would let him go rest in peace. They were going to try and give him a blood transfusion. They never got to give it to him. He coded again and was gone. I never had a clue that he was so sick. I'm sure he knew but didn't say anything because he didn't want to worry me. I am quite angry at that. To have him suddenly wrenched from my life is horrible. The night before he died he was in the kitchen cooking dinner. He did tell me the week before that he had a dream that he was going to die. I said to myself "where did that come from?". And I blew it off. Never to feel his soft touch on my cheek or never to hold his hand again while falling asleep is unbearable right now. The pain is still too raw to conceive a life without him. I have never lived alone until now. Went from parent's house to first marriage then to Clay. We had just moved to a new home in a new location the beginning of July. We knew no one except our real estate agent, but that didn't matter. We had each other and the 2 dogs. He loved it here and had all sorts of plans. I will carry out most of those plans. There were a few I wasn't too crazy about but never said anything because he was so hyped up. He will have a military funeral on Sept 29th which would have been our anniversary. I couldn't think of a more appropriate time to say my final goodbye. The lonliness is overwhelming right now. I know I will make it through this because I am a strong person and Clay wouldn't have wanted me to grieve for him the rest of my life. I will celebrate and remember all the good times we had together. But it's very hard right now. Strength to us all. Barb