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Please Patti, Always remember the good times. They are what keep us going. Thoughts of the past come hard for me right now, but I still rely on the things we cherished together. HAPPY BIRTHDAY PATTI. I'M SURE YOU CAN REMEMBER ALL THE TIMES HE SAID THAT TO YOU. I WISH YOU GOOD THOUGHTS AND REFLECTIONS. The tears are bittersweet but healing. ALWAYS AND FOREVER, MY LOVE, ALWAYS AND FOREVER.

Well here Iam again, I haven't posted for awhile, but know that I've been here. listening to all your thoughts and sharing your pain. Sometimes its just to hard to post, let alone talk about my loss. Lately I've begun to remember all he went thru to stay with me as long as he did. 17 yrs. ago he was medically retired, it was a fight from then on til I lost him in August. I wont go into all he went thru here now, but when he was diagnosed with lung cancer in March, he was again determined to fight. But this time it was a mountain too high and the LORD mercifully took him home on August 9th. I miss him all the time, but I thank GOD everyday for the time we had together. The tears come now, so I will sing off for now. ALWAYS AND FOREVER, MY LOVE, ALWAYS AND FOREVER.

Hi Flossie Im glad you have come here to us. I think the 1st's are really hard to take. I haven't posted lately because it seems to be too hard at this time. Im glad your birthday went well. My children took me to Skippers, a fish & clips place. something just said go there. My husband took me there for several years. It had only been a month, and I hoped it would help me feel closer to him. It worked, we talked about Dad and his love life personality the whole time we were there. If you can, try to remember all the good times, there most be a lot we can all share. The greif is real and painful, but the love they gave us will help us to remember all the great things our memories can hold to warm our hearts. good luck Flossie and may god help you to remember the good times.

Well now I feel really stupid, I hit the wrong button, sorry! first to say, I have a daughter named debbie. so I already feel a little closer to you. My loss was 3 mos. ago, and I just went thru our wedding anniversary. All the special days will be tough, I dont know how to get around that. I seem to get some warmness in my broken heart whenever I think of the good times. another thin i've done is after my husband earthly body was creamated, I purchased a small silver locket, had it ingraved with a personal saying and placed some of his hair and ash in it and had it sealed. I wear it all the time. I know his soul is with the Lord, but a part of him will always be with me. We all care about you, I trully hope something like this can help, but we are all different in a same way. may he be with you always "deb". I will pray for you.

Thank you TORI for sharing, eventually, the good reflections make outweigh the pain, even if only for a short while. Well,one of my firsts is now passed. Our anniversary, my heart was trully heavy,but I was determined to remember the good times. Our anniversary was always important to both of us. But I was not prepared for the gift I recieved in the evening. I had not allowed myself to remember that my husband had always given me red roses on our anniversary. I was helping my one daughter fix supper when in walked my other daughter and her husband with huge vase of 49 roses, 48 red and 1 white. I completely lost it. At first my daughter thought she had made a mistake and considered saying she was sorry, but she said dad would have wanted you to have them. The card read," thank you for showing us what always & forever is." Some tears are trully bittersweet. ALWAYS & FOREVER MY LOVE, ALWAYS & FOREVER

hello agaim to all of you. So today is our anniversary. 49 yrs ago today we began our life together. I've thought about this day a lot in the last few weeks and I've decided to make this a day of reflection and memories. Dont get me wrong, the tears have come often today, but this was always a joyeous day for us and I'm trying to make it that way,even though my heart is breaking. I would like to share one precious moment of my life with you. When we were just 18, we met at his senior prom, 5 months later we decided to marrie. We asked the mayor of our small town to official over our vows. He graciously consented. when the ceremony began, he began to cry, the mayor, and continued to cry all through the wedding. when we were done,my dad asked why he cried, he said he had never been asked to marry anyone, he was just overwhelmed with emotion. He only hoped it took. If this reflection warms your heart a little in your time of sorrow, please try to remember the good times you had with your love. If you can't share with us because it hurts too much, we all understand. If you can, maybe it will help you heal. Maybe I'm being too presumptious, but I know it helps me. TO YOU, MY LOVE, I WILL THINK OF YOU WITH A WARM HEART, AS I TRY TO REMEMBER THE GOOD TIMES.

I too do not know if I am doing this right, but I guess its not relavent. What I feel the need to say is that all of what I have read in these posts is also reflected in my heart. I have felt it all loss, guilt extreme pain and all the rest. But mostly, I feel great blessings that I had my love for as lomg as I did. On November 13, 1957 We pledged oueselves to each other, until death do us part. On August 9th, 2006 my best friend and soulmate went home to our Lord, he didnt want to leave me, but the time had come. Iknow I will see him again, and I hope it is soon. My children keep me sane, I thank god everyday for their love and understanding, I know they are hurting too. I just want to thank you all for allowing me to listen to your reflections of greif. I will survive and go on. Im not sure how yet, but i will for him, because he said i must.