Just a brief history to set the tone. My husband of 18yrs passed away 6/26/2015 at 43 yrs old. We have 2 sons who are now 11 & 15 yrs of age ( I am 37). My family was a very tight knit unit; you saw one of us, you saw all 4. My husbands death was sudden and completely unexpected 2 days before my older sons 14th birthday! My husband and oldest were becoming very close, as he was growing up, becoming the best of friends and now that is gone.
As it has been over a year since my husbands passing, I am beginning to try to move forward and learn how to live as a single parent and an individual. I was 18 when my husband and I were married so being a single adult/parent is something that I never experienced before and never planned.
As I have began to venture out of the home without my children and try to make friends, my own age, my 15 yr old is rebelling against the thought of me spending time with anyone the he doesn't approve of. I have made the point to my children that I do NOT wish to be in a "relationship" and am NOT looking for anyone to replace their father. My number one priority for the next 6 years is my 2 children and raising them to be responsible, life successful young men. I think that is why I am so torn and at a lose on how to continue at this point! I am trying to learn to live my life as I raise them knowing that one day they will no longer be in my home and starting their own lives but I do not want to upset them or make them unhappy.
Do I just stop and strictly be a mother for the next 6 years or how do I get my 15 yr old to compromise on me learning to live my life?
