daddyslilgirl

Haley, I am so sorry hon that you are feeling so bad. I think part of grieving is anger and wanting to be left alone. At least I hope it is our you and I are going nuts. I find myself getting mad at people that before I would just blow off. I listen to the phone ring cause I don't want to talk to people. Have you tried journaling? I know that helps me alot. Write letters to her in it, so just write what you are feeling. You will be in my thoughts and prayers and if you ever need to talk..just holler

I put the poem on my Dad's memorial yeaterday, I hope that it was ok that I used it..

I am so sorry for your loss..I lost my Dad also and I know the pain..Thanks for sharing the poem..It was beautiful...

I am so sorry for your loss...Thoughts and prayers are with you...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad 7 months ago tommarow and I still hurt like it was yesterday. Don't push yourself into doing anything more than you feel comfortable with. I did from the get go and haven't stoped. I don't suggest doing that. I still have yet to break down and bawl. I guess that's a good thing, but I am told the longer it waits, the worse it will be. If you want to scream and holler and cry, do it, but also don't forget to remember the good times. I close my eyes during the day and for just a second, I can see him smiling, or saying "now Lil girl"..And for those few moments I am very thankful..I get up every morning, because I know he'd want me too, I try everyday to keep his memory alive, I show my kids things he showed me, and I never ever forget to say I Love You to those I love. Losing my Dad was the hardest thing I have ever gone thru but I am greatful for 33 years..Look in the mirror..She lives in you...Thoughts and prayers for you and if you ever need an ear...

Shelly, I am sorry about your Dad. I wasn't on here on his anniversary, but I am glad you came thru it ok...Thinking of you often and prayers sent to...

Thanks..Prayers are surely welcome...

I am coming up on the 7th month date, tommarow..I am not looking forward to that day. The day is the same..I will be praying for you and your Aunt. Hope all turns out well at her Drs'. I am so sorry for the loss of your Mom.. I was having a moment when I typed this, it is 8 months not 7...

Not sure I have anything else to add, everyone covered it well, but know I am sorry for your loss and my thoughts and prayers are with you....

Natalie, First I want to say I am sorry for your loss. And like Shell and Leann said, you can only hold it in for so long before the gates open wide. I talk about my Dad often but I can't cry. Losing him was losing my best friend, my number one fan and the only person who never hurt me..So I know what you are feeling..Talk, cry, scream do what ever it takes for you to grieve, and don't be ashamed of it...And if you can't do any of those, then try writing down your feelings. Write letters to him, keep a journal...As for going to college, don't not do that because of him, Think what he would want. Wouldn't he not want you to go and better yourself. When my Dad passed, I wondered how I could go on living, knowing he wasn't any longer and then it hit me, I would go on because he wants me too. He was so full of life and thru me his memory will countinue. So every day, I tell storys about him, or paint a picture, or teach someone something he taught me. And becuase of that, he will live forever in the memories..I miss him everyday so very much, but I know he's happy and what else could I want for him but that. Anyways, in a nutshell, My thoughts and prayers are with you and just keep on posting, there's always someone hear to listen...

Derek, My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your Grandmother..

I agree with Shell. I wish I'd get up the nerve to write a few letters and send them myself. You have feelings and so does yor Dad and if he don't speck up, you should. Don't feel bad. You did nothing but state the truth. ))hugs((

I know what you are feeling...A couple days ago, a older friend said he had something for me if I wanted it, and after he told me what it was, My first thought was...I can't wait to call my Dad and tell him...Alas, I can't..I miss him somedays so much, I can't breath. I spend most of the day alone anyways, so that's ok but there are times I wished I could go curl up somewhere. All I can say is you are in my thoughts and prayers and keep talking, that helps...

Leann, Just a suggestion, but for Father's Day, I bought helium ballons and a card and tied the card to the ballons and let them go. I told my sister about it and she did the same. Kinda like airmail to heaven...Just a thought...

I don't have anymore to add, Shell covered it pretty well. Just take care of yourself and I will be thinking of you...

I'm not sure if I can say anything to make you feel better, but I am so sorry you had to deal with her and her selfishness. I am sorry she was so uncaring about your baby. I hope you don't let her get to you and take her words for nothing other than what they are worth. I will be praying and thinking of you...))HUGS((

I too lost my Dad almost 7 months ago. It was the hardest thing I have ever had to go thru. I live 2000= miles away from them but was able to get there on Sunday, he passed on Tuesday. I was a very crazy thing, He had an earache, this was thursday night, got dizzy they took him to the er, I talked to him on Friday, he sounded ok, complaining that he was hungry, I was going to a mother/daughter confrence that day and said I would call him on Sat. Sat came and my sister called saying he was unresponsive and and I needed to get there. I couldn't get a flight out till the next am and got there at 10 am on Sunday. I walked in and he raised up in the bed and told me he loved me twice and laid back down and never said another word. WHen he passed away, we (my mom, sister, brother and I) were around him and holding his hands and he pulled them away and crossed them over his chest, a smile came onto his face and a single tear ran down his cheek and he was gone. During that time that he was in the hospital, I never left him alone. I read the newspaper to him, told him all about what was going on at home (mine) and talked like everything was normal. I never cryed, I took care of all the arrangements, brought his ashes home with me and to this day, I haven't cried. I hate that, because I feel like I can't hardly go on somedays. I miss him so much that it would be so easy to just lose it, but I can't. I guess my point is, that what you are feeling is normal. Cry all you want. There is not a time frame for grief. You can't wake up one morning and just not care that you just lost someone you love. I told someone that I wanted to scream and they said scream, so scream, holler, acry do what you have to do, but know this, you were loved and he isn't really gone. He lives in your heart and your memories and he will live forever thru you. )))Hugs((( to you and prayers being sent your way and if you ever need to talk...

Bee, Believe me, I kinda thought about the whole thing about thinking with something else..Thanks, That made me chuckle...I was probably the closest to my Dad and my mom said she figured I'd be the one to throw a fit, but I wasn't. I think it was probably because I was closest to my Dad. Now if the roles were reversed, I would have thrown the biggest fit, you would have heard it in Austrila.lol...It was kinda known that if anything were to happen to my mom then my Dad would move up here with me. My mom hates NY so I knew she wouldn't ever. Thing is, Every year they came up for the summer, mostly, ok all the way, because my Dad wanted to, but now since she's been remarried, she wants them to come up in Feb. She hated NY when my Dad was alive and that was in the summer, now she wants to come up during Winter? I don't get it...The reason I didn't go to the Wedding was because I had just spent 3 weeks down there with them, and they were getting married in Colorado at my Aunts' house (my mom lives in Arizona) so I could have changed my plans and gone, but I honestly just really didn't want to.. As for the relationship between my Mom and me, well...It could be better. Not because of her getting married exactly, just now she seems self-centered. Don't get me wrong, I love my mom, but everything is about her. How she's feeling, who made Her mad, what happened to her. I start to tell her something and she changes the subject. Let me give you a little background so you can understand this better. I am my Dad's only daughter, my sister is his step-daughter, (though you'd never think my brother and sisiter weren't my Dad's kids) and him and I were very close. Anyways I talked to them, though it was mostly him, 2..sometimes 6 times a day on the phone, he always had time to talk, to listen, and after my Dad passed, I was the strong one, I took care of everything, and everyone, I am my Dad's daughter after all, I had to be strong, anyways, I spent hours listening to thier grief, offering support while all along I didn't show my pain, anyways, I think becuase of that, maybe she felt, I was ok and contuinue to be ok. But I now talk to her maybe 1 times a day, and for maybe 5 minutes. And the only time she really wants to talk to me is if something is bothering her. My mom and sister were having troubles here recently and I of course was in the middle, I know I could have said Deal with it and leave me alone, but I did what my Dad would have done, talked to them both and tried to solve it, Now during this time, my mom called all the time, a couple times a day, but once they got over fighting, I am back to square one with her. Yesterday we talked for 3 minutes...3 MINUTES!!! Yet, I called my sister and she was at a resturant waiting for my mom and they were all gonna have dinner. I guess I'm being selfish, but she can't even call me. She can't or won't help me with what is going on in my life. Granted, I'm not a little girl (minus my sig name)I'm a 33 year old married mother of 2 step mom to 2 more, but it would be nice to have momtell me everything will be ok.. I know I sound like a baby, but I guess it is just because my Dad always took time for me, and she can't, I guess it has always kinda been that way, not to sound vain, but my family, mom included, said they knew Dad liked me most, so amybe since my Dad is gone, she doesn't really feel like she has to deal with me..I don't know, maybe i am just rambling..Anyways ..Another quick story(can you tell I like to talk)I even have my Dad's ashes. He came home with me right after he was cremated. For that I am glad because even though it is his earthly body and he's no longer there, I believe he is right where he wanted to be. My mom said from the begining that she wanted me to take his ashes, because he would want to be in NY. Anyways, If you ever need to talk or you just need to scream, give me a holler, I'm a great listener and I tell great stories(Thanks to my Dad!) Have a great Day!

I can relate to you. My Dad passed away in March and my Mom remarried in Aug. It was a big shock. I live 2000 miles away from her and my sister 1 block away and my brother about 900 miles away. While my brother had a very hard time with this, I quess my sister and I took it a bit easier. I was very upset at the news, don't get me wrong, but I knew my mom was going to do what she wanted to regardless of how us kids felt. She is 70 also. My Dad was the greatest, and I felt like she hadn't had enough time to grieve but I knew that this new man made her happy. And I just felt like, who am I to tell her that she can't be happy. He had lost his wife the past Winter, so he knew the pain of losing a spouse, I guess together they felt like they could help each other. I was not at the wedding, my sister and brother were. I have met him and he is a very nice person. He never acted as though he was trying to take my Dad's place, and never pushed us to like him, but I really do like him. I know this is hard on you and your sisters,but like my mom told me, "your Dad is not coming back" at the time I thought that was pretty harsh, but I realized it was true. My mom does deserve to be happy and if I wasn't gonna give up my life to go be with her, then what say so did I have in it. Please don't get me wrong I believe it was way to soon, but it is her choice. Be honest with your Dad, tell him it hurts you and why, but be there for him. You lost your mother but he also lost his wife. This probably didn't help you much, but It was more for you to know you are not alone..You will be in my thoughts and prayers...

I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that we are hear to listen if you need to talk. Prayers being sent your way...

First off, I want to say sorry for your losses, and secondly, I know what it is like for a pet to mourn another pet. Our Horse Crash moped around for weeks after his companion Lily died. All I can say is show Tom as much affection as you can, shower him with love and a few treats every now and then and let him know though things changed, some things won't. I believe they feel as lost as we do and since they can't tell us about it, they act out, or withdraw, they don't know what else to do..I will be praying and thinking of you and Tom and wish you the best...

Oh Hon, I am so sorry for your loss.. ANd I am sorry you are hurting about so many things right now. I too believe that we will see our pets in Heaven. I sure hope so, I have lost some that are like my kids. When ever you need to talk, just holler, I know there is usually someone hear to listen..)))HUGS(((

Hey Shelly, I think it's normal, cause if it isn't, we are both in trouble.... I worry constantly. I check and double check everything, I won't get on the web during the day in case My kids need to get ahold of me, I hear a noise and it drives me nuts till i find out what it is...I obsess over the animals, and my kids, which drives all of them nuts, so...I hope it's normal...

Prayers and thoughts going out to your family..I am sorry for your loss..

I agree, if you need to cry, cry. There is nothing weak in sheding a few tears...