Hi Marty! Thanks for reviewing this topic. I will go back and read the discussion with Matt and look up the references. I have begun to question whether my grief is actually a pathology because most everyone I've talked to cannot relate. For example, my current wife has been through divorce twice before, but has no continuing grief whatsoever. But even though I am now "happily" remarried, I yearn for my ex-wife and feel extremely sad about not being able to share experiences with our grandchildren with her. The first time I remember feeling misunderstood grief was when our family moved. My fourth-grade class was a totally new environment. I cried every day in class. My parents were called in and my teacher was invited over for dinner in an effort to help me relax with her. When my first (sixth grade) girlfriend moved, I was grief-stricken for at least two years. President Reagan cancelled the weapons program I was working on as an Air Force officer. I fell into depression, was hospitalized and forced into retirement. I have had many "smaller" episodes which most people don't understand: My baseball home team lost in the playoffs, my pastor suffered a heart attack and became unable to work, my candidate for president withdrew his name (I wrote it in anyway.) As I grow older I realize that at best I am unusually sensitive, but perhaps I have a personality disorder which could become recognized in DSM-V. I am working with both a psychiatrist and a therapist. The psychiatrist has already told me that he wants nothing to do with an as yet undocumented disorder. I haven't heard from my therapist yet, but perhaps he will be more willing to explore this new explanation with me. I have tried to contact some of the original researchers of complicated grief, asking for help in taking their Inventory of Complicated Grief. No response as of yet.