BeachJoW

JHCP, you can turn those memory notifications off.

I'm in the minority then because most days, FB helps me a lot! I'm in a FB group that follows a band we love, and I've literally met hundreds of new friends because of it and they are like family to me. We post all day long about the band and our lives - people needing prayer, celebrating something good, looking forward to our next concert. We travel from all around the country for concerts and meet up to eat and visit before and after concerts. When my husband died, these friends took up a collection and bought tickets for me & girlfriend to attend an upcoming concert, paid for hotel room, sent me a gas card & sent me the balance of the money collected via Paypal, which was close to $500! And an artist had done some large oil paintings of the band a few years ago and sold them with the money going to St. Jude's. We do a lot of fundraising for St. Jude's because one of the band member's daughter was diagnosed with a brain tumor at 2 years. She's had surgery and treatment and is in remission now and it was all paid for by St. Jude's. An owner of one of the oil paintings had it shipped to me and it now hangs in my dining room. They have really helped me during the past 2 years, when my husband was diagnosed with cancer, his treatment and ultimate death. And they're still helping me. I still get cards & FB messages saying they're thinking about me, and it really helps. I didn't spend much time on my regular FB page on Valentine's Day, but my FB group and you guys helped me get through. It's good to reach out to others who are going through the same pain. Thank you.

I'm new here. My husband died in Sept. 2016. I have good days and not so good days. I have felt like I've been doing pretty well. I get up and go to work. I have dinner with friends. I have planned several trips for the year. But at the moment, I am in a funk. I don't know why. My house is so full of my spouse everywhere I look. I have started cleaning some things out but haven't made a lot of progress with that. I just sometimes have a memory or hear a song and the tears start - anywhere - at work, which is embarrassing, driving my car to or from work (bad way to start the day). I really try to start out with a positive attitude every day and just do what I'm supposed to do, but it doesn't always work. And I'm going through all of these "firsts" without my sweetheart. So it's my first Valentine's Day without him. We always exchanged cards and he made us a steak dinner (my favorite). My co-workers are all dressed in red and telling everyone Happy Valentine's Day. I'm sorry, but I just am not celebrating it this year and I don't want to have to explain it. It's just how I feel. How is everyone else doing today?