Deb and Pat

Sure does! Right now we are averaging 90+ degrees in the daytime. The humidity is also very high. But it is a lot better than snow (yuck). Deb

Nice - have not been to Oregon - Deb

Oh my no cougars here - what state do you live in - I live in Iowa? Just raccoons and skunks here - Deb

Happily we lived in a house that is in a wooded area. I continue to love being here - I continue to tell him when the yard is full of deer as we loved to watch them together. A simple but happy thing for us. Deb

I am beginning to see this and have started to concentrate on the good and not the bad. Thanks Deb

I agree very calming - and such neat memories - you have a good point here - focus on the memories you have not the ones you won't have. Thanks Deb

Thanks kevin. I look forward to being a part of you guys. Deb

How wonderful. Hey I like salad so tell me some of your stories - hearing about others in a way I cannot explain really helps. Deb

Marg M. thank you. I have very similar feelings. I did not have any children - Pat had four. But the almighty $$$ gets involved and so the chain gets broken. My very great (step) son takes good care of me with help and assistance. The others there is no communication. Perhaps it is the guilt that drives their feelings. I don't know. The divide is too large to ever be recovered with the girls. To me it is lonely - sure I have friends yet no one to come home too. This was not the life I ordered. At times I don't care either. My parents are a big support but they don't live around me. Thanks for answering me and thanks for the advise. Deb

Thank you - I have really found comfort here. Deb

TomPB, hang in there - Deb

That is sad - friends should be there. I still have people who do not know what to say to me. Its like hey I am human and just like to talk - doesn't have to be about the loss - I see people avoid me in the grocery store - oh well - ignorance is bliss I guess. Deb

Hi Marg M - probably because there was so much support at first. Now others look and I feel like they are thinking just get over it and move on. I did not plan to be a fifty year old widow in my life. I lost the identity that I loved. So slowly I have tried to re- identify myself - what helps you? I have read tons of books - Deb

Thank Gin.

Thank you - Deb