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snflwrgrl

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  • Your gender
    Female
  • Location (city, state)
    modesto, CA

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  • Your relationship to the individual who died
    daughter
  • Date of Death
    1/25/13
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    Hospice House in Hughson, CA
  1. snflwrgrl

    Father passed in February

    I commend you for being a stay at home mom. That’s wonderful! There doesn’t seem to be many of those anymore and I believe that to be the most important and rewarding job in the entire world! I’m very sorry about the loss of your dad. My dad died when I was only 26 and my mom died five years ago. My mom and I were very close. When she passed away, I went to GriefShare. Have you considered it? I met other women who were going through the same emotions I was there. I no longer felt so alone. I received support there and sometimes it just helped to talk. GriefShare also gave me the tools I needed to start the healing process. It’s offered nationwide and I encourage you to find one in your area. It may help you too. My mom was a strong, what some people call “born again” Christian and, although we were very close and I miss her dearly, knowing she went to heaven comforts me greatly. I am a Christian also and I know without a doubt I will see her again. I will be praying for you this week, for strength and peace. Try not to get too far ahead of yourself and enjoy every moment! you have with your family. I’m glad you reached out! Hugs!
  2. snflwrgrl

    Angry.

    I’m so sorry your hearts have been broken. Your story sounds very painful. I can’t even imagine what it must have been like for you to find your dad. I’m glad you have such a wonderful, forgiving wife beside you. A friend of mine killed herself in December and my emotions have been all over the place. I’m super sad. Then I get mad and I feel guilty because I didn’t see the signs. It’s a vicious circle. Have you and your wife considered GriefShare? I went when my mom passed away. It gave me the tools I desperately needed to start the healing process. It also put me in touch with other people who were going through the same emotions I was. It really helped to know I wasn’t alone. It might help you and your wife too and they may have some suggestions to help your son also. Don’t lose hope. I will be praying for you and your family this week.
  3. I am so sorry for your loss. My mom passed away 5 years ago and I miss her!! My mom had a massive stroke and was completely paralyzed on her right side. My sisters and I took care of her for 8 years and, even with their help, it was so hard!! I had two small boys and I felt like I was missing out on things with them and at the same time trying to honor my mother. I had a lot of anxiety and there were times when there didn’t seem to be enough of me to go around. It was exhausting!! Near the end of my mom’s life we placed her in Hospice. That was a very hard decision to make. She wanted to be home but we knew she needed 24 hour care that we could no longer provide. :’( It’s not your fault!! You sound like a wonderful daughter and I can tell from your post just how much you loved your mom. :) The Bible says there is a time to be born and a time to die. You took the very best care of your mom you could for as long as you could and you made the best decision you could at the time for your mom and your family, looking forward to the times you could enjoy visiting with your mom on the patio. <3 My heart goes out to you and I will be praying that in time good memories and the love you and your mom had for each other will flood your mind. I also want to encourage you to look into GriefShare. It’s a wonderful program and it’s offered nationwide. It put me in touch with other women who were going through the same emotions I was so I didn’t feel so alone and it gave me the tools I needed to start the healing process. Sometimes it just helps to talk to someone who understands. Please keep in touch and let us know how you’re doing. I’m glad you reached out!
  4. snflwrgrl

    Tough Day today

    My heart goes out to you. My mom died 5 years ago on January 25th and she was my best friend. :’( Like you, my dad died when I was young. I was 26. I can tell you loved your mom very much. You were with her as much as you could be and you took care of her for as long as you could. <3 I’m sure you have many wonderful memories of her. If your mom was anything like my mom, she would not want you to feel guilty for doing your best. Big hug! After my mom died, I went to GriefShare. There I met women who were going through the same emotions I was and some of them became lifelong friends. I received the support I needed there and I was given tools to start the healing process. I encourage you to find one in your area. They’re offered nationwide and it may help you too. You are not alone!! I will be praying for you. I’m glad you reached out!
  5. snflwrgrl

    Wish there was a check list

    I am so sorry!! for your loss. My mom died on January 25, 2013 and, although I have worked through my grief, I miss her more now than ever. I remember thinking that no one would ever love me the way she did again. :’( Have you considered GriefShare? It’s a wonderful, helpful program and it’s offered nationwide. I highly encourage you to look for one in your area. It put me in touch with other women who were going through the same emotions I was and it gave me the tools I needed to start the healing process. I found it to truly be a process. I was sad, depressed, mad, then sad again. There was no rhyme or reason. I also had times when I’d start to enjoy life again and at first I felt very guilty about it. Just know that everything you are going through is perfectly normal. <3 You are not alone!! and I will be praying for you this week. Hang in there my friend!!
  6. snflwrgrl

    3 losses in 4 years

    I remember when my dad died. I walked out of the hospital and life was going on all around me like usual. It felt so odd. My whole world had changed in an instance and nobody even noticed. It was surreal. I was 26. After taking care of my mom for eight years and spending the last eight days of her life with her at the Hospice House, never leaving her side, I felt so alone as I watched them wheel her away. I remember thinking that no one would ever love me the way she did. There's something different about losing your mother and there's something different when both your mom and dad are gone. That was almost five years ago and, although I've learned to live with her not being here, I miss her more now than ever. She'd give you the shirt off her back, literally, if you liked it :), and her eyes always lit up when she saw me. She was a very strong Christian woman and the one thing that has comforted me is knowing I will see her again. Have you ever heard of GriefShare? It's a nationwide program so there may be one in your area. It really helped me and I think it can help you too. It put me in touch with other women who were going through a loss similar to mine and all the emotions that go along with that. It made me realize that I wasn't alone at all. It also gave me the tools and resources I needed to start the healing process. I highly encourage you to check it out. I also talked to my pastor and saw a Christian counselor. Both were supportive and sometimes I just needed to talk. Have you considered seeing a local pastor or a counselor? You have been through a lot! and my heart goes out to you my friend. Hang in there! and know I will be keeping you in my prayers this week.
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