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Thank you Marty T, I am reading everything you've suggested. Still feel like my life is on pause. He's still putting kisses on messages so maybe it's just time he needs...

Hi kayc, the talk was very emotional, he admitted immediately that he missed his wife and that he was probably depressed. Bc it was a happy marriage I knew I would always be second to his feelings for her and I'm fine with that. He still says he wants to come away with me in November. We went for dinner again the following week and he was cute, funny and insisted on paying even though I tried too. He joked with me saying he was going to tell his counsellor all about me with a wink. He stayed over and we just kissed gently for an hour or so. I thought he was happier but today by text says he wasn't. He's going out with old friends this evening which I think is a positive. I miss him though. Have asked to meet up tomorrow evening? When he takes me to dinner and kisses me so much I fall him again and assume that all is fine. I know he's hurting, what do I do? I don't want to lose him, I love him.

Thank you for this. I really thought we had got closer as a couple prior to last weekend and I was worried this would happen. I've always appreciated his feelings and love will always be there for his deceased wife and we do talk about her occasionally. He has a picture of him and his wife on his wall and I've only ever said it's a great picture. I don't have any issues with it at all. He says he wants to meet to talk to me which is good except that I'm worried he really just wants to finish. The Friday before he went to scatter her ashes he confirmed a trip to Edinburgh with me in November for my birthday. I just really confused especially as I know I love him dearly and don't want to lose him.

Thank you. That is my thoughts exactly. He's away with work but he wants to talk when back so I'll see how that goes. I have read the articles and I found them helpful.

He's been a widower for 2 years 8 months and only just scattered her ashes. I've given him my full support and told him to take what time he needs. It was a very full on relationship and he gave the impression that he liked me a lot. He said he was falling for me after a month. He contacted me today to say he would like to meet up and talk as he does have some feelings for me. I feel very confused.

I started dating a widower 3 months ago and we were getting on really well and seeing each other on regular dates. On Sunday he went to scatter his wife's ashes with his in laws and family. He says now that there is no chemistry between us...until this weekend we had been sleeping together, had weekends away and he seemed to love making me laugh. Is he struggling with his emotions or is this really the end?