Christysue72

Thank you so much ! I totally agree with the stages issue. No one in my family is going through this quite the same way. My sister cries all the time. My brother is an alcoholic so he’s been on a bender for two months now basically. My baby sister tried the suicide route so we’ve been dealing with that. Her kids are staying with me right now. I feel so bad for them. I know she’s not in her right mind but it was really unfair to put her kids through this right after their grandpa passed. I don’t feel safe discussing my feelings with family because they are all so extreme. ( huge Irish family , comes with the territory) I did report the scammer on Facebook . They took down the page immediately. They are also turning my Dads Facebook page into a memorial page. It flags Facebook if someone tries to make another one. Thank you so much for the response !! Christine

Thank you so much , Marty. It does really sound like our experience is very similar. I’m in college right now as well. When my father passed I was taking Economics and Psycology . Economics was extremely difficult. I still managed to finish with honor roll. Everyone was stunned. I think this week was the first time I realized my not dealing with it is as equally unhealthy as those falling apart around me. I am a stuffer. I’ve always managed to take the most terrible moments in my life and stuff them away . Of course it manifests itself in unhealthy ways. I will try to read the articles. Thank you ! On an unrelated note I just got off Facebook support. When I logged on earlier there was a friend request from my father. Someone made a fake profile and started friend requesting family. I truly don’t understand what is to gain by doing such a thing. It was however a very odd moment. The feeling is undiscribable . I’m going to drink some wine and try to shake the feeling enough to sleep a bit. Thank u so very much for your response and very good advice. It feels really good that someone understands Christine

Warm greetings to all. This is my first time on here. It will also be the first time I’ve spoken about my Fathers passing. My Dad passed away 62 days ago. He passed extremely suddenly and was only 69. There was no goodbyes and no warning. He was just gone. I actually spoke to him on the phone just an hour before he passed. I wonder often how that conversation would have gone had I known it would be the last time I would speak to my Dad. I’ve barely cried . I honestly don’t know why. I was very close to my Father and love and miss him immensely. I am the oldest of his four children. I was the only one of his children that spoke at the service. Some of my siblings stated they just couldn’t do it. One says I act like I don’t care. Nothing could be further from the truth. Behind closed doors I struggle to get out of bed. No one has noticed the 17 lbs I’ve lost yet. Although I stay in bed , I don’t sleep. Things just seem extraordinarily hard. I realize we all handle grief in our own way but everyone seems to act like my way is not normal. I tell them normal is just a setting on the dryer but I feel and hear their judgments. I’m not sure at this point if I stay in bed because I don’t want to deal with my grief or because I don’t want to deal with people. Their judgements and ideas about what stage of mourning I should be in . I’m just waiting for it all to get a little better . Christine