Jasper

Hi Laurie ~ I can't say I know what you are going through but the same thing happened to my brother. He had a heart attack and had been in intensive care. I had been to see him and a few days later he was out of intensive care and I expected him to be home in no time. I came back home and the next morning my sister called to say Len was dead and was found on the bathroom floor. There are so many unanswere questions. Did they take him out of ICU too soon. It has been about 7 years now and I still miss him. He probably died instantly Laurie and I truly believe we have someone come to take us home so he wouldn't be alone. Just do the best you can and don't beat yourself up over these things. Just be good to yourself as I know our loved ones wouldn't want us to go on hurting. Take care and God Bless.

Hi kayc and Bebekat ~ Thank both of you so much for replying. You have both given me some very good ideas. All I have to do now is get the enthusiasm to do it. Maybe I will join the Senior's and take some kind of a course and I do know there is a lot of volunteer work around. I just feel like I want to do something with a challenge, you know, work for it. I don't want something that comes too easy. Bebekat, are you having a problem with Christmas coming? I got through last year without too much of a problem but this year I find harder. Can't figure that one out. Kayc, I know this one will be hard for you, do you have plans? Just know I am thinking of you both. May God Bless.

Hi Gaby Thanks so much for your caring. It's hard to remember back when it was just four months for me. I know it was very hard. I do find the more you can talk about the person it helps as we seem to be afraid people are going to forget them. We want to make them real for us. A good cry also helps. I will pray that God will show himself in your life. He is there but sometimes we get caught up in ourselves and don't give Him a chance to Help us. Thanks again. Jasper is actually my cat but is so much company for me. Something to meet me at the door. Take care.

Hi Everyone! I really hope I can get some feedback. It has been a year and a half today actually since my husband passed on with lung cancer. He had been diagnosed just a little over a year before that so you would think I would have adjusted. I was on medication for a few months and thought I was doing really well. As soon as I went off I took Giant steps backward. I have once again settled down a bit but just don't know how to start a new life. I have always worked but haven't since my husband got sick so have a lot of spare time on my hands. I just can't seem to be able to get motivated. I am 68 years old so think I am a little too old to think about going back to work although financially it would certainly help. It doesn't matter if you know they have a short time or not it still comes as a real shock when it happens. Any suggestions would be gratefully appreciated.