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  1. Many of my neighbors dropped by with a meal. I can't tell you how helpful this was, for me, as I certainly wasn't in the frame of mind to even think about eating. Most remarked "let me know if you need something." This was so generous, but it leaves the "letting" in my court. And of course, many of us at this onset really don't want to burden anyone by asking. Or perhaps mention you're going to the grocery store and ask if she needs anything while you're there. Small gestures like this. So I would say drop off a meal. Check in with the person once in a while, simply by phone call. Just to say hi and let them know you are thinking of them. And if the conversation goes nowhere, that's okay. The gesture of reaching out is meaningful, trust me. I would say don't ask how they're doing. Us widows/widowers know how we're doing..... Just a show of friendship and knowing that you're thought of goes a long way. As I worked in my yard during the after months, neighbors would remark how beautiful my yard looked. Made me feel noticed. And sometimes we just don't feel noticed because people don't know what to say. And that's not their fault at all. I hope this helps. Shirley
  2. Hi Joey, I wanted to pop in and send love to you. The photo of you and Margaret is beautiful. Grief for me softened over time. It never leaves us, but for me it softened. I think your commune with nature is a wonderful thing! It helps to quieten the "monkey mind" and reminds you that you are never truly alone. When grief comes, take a deep breath, lift your head and walk through it. I learned not to try to stop it. You have the strength of Source within and all around you. Each of us is different in our journey. No right, wrong, or timeframe for anything. It's your sacred path. Do it your way. Talk to Margaret. She hears you. The physical body dies but the light that is our soul is always here. Just on another vibration. Shirley
  3. Eventually you will cast off some of these "guilts." I remember the first time I actually laughed out loud at something, then fell into a blubbering mess from the guilt. Seems like ages ago now.... Be kind to yourself. Annette is your biggest champion and walks with you always. 💚
  4. Be kind and gentle to yourself. You not only lost Annette (and I stress the physical Annette), but you also lost the caretaking roll. It takes a while to find a new path, a "different you," and I'm not sure any of us wake up one morning and say we know the path. It's a journey of this physical life. But it's also a journey of the soul as well. I found several channels on YouTube that although don't speak to losing a spouse in particular allow for listening to some amazing speakers and mediums regarding afterlife - and I watch them almost daily. It's a gentle reminder that those across the veil are still here with us. PM me if you'd like more info. ~Shirley
  5. Yes! I go out each morning to look for constellation Orion. And I know Stephen is connecting with me at that moment. Yesterday I was finishing second coat of paint on a spare bedroom (painting, what a drag!). A song came on Pandora that was one of Stephen's favorites. I danced around with paint brush in hand, knowing he was dancing with me. I am sure most of us absolutely treasure hearing our loved one's name. Before I relocated several states from Florida to be near family, I would greet neighbors and always talk about Stephen. Eventually they came to know that it was not a subject to avoid. When we speak their names, they hear it across the veil. And it makes them happy! Sometime in the past five months, I had my first and only astral dream. In the dream, Stephen came to me and said he could only stay one hour. I don't recall what we did, but he then said I have to go. I was distressed at that and he leaned in and gave me a big tight hug. I immediately woke up, and I could physically feel that hug on my body. Knowing he has things to do and continued learning on that side, I know he was telling me he's okay. And that I'll be okay too. Yeah, we'll always miss the physical. But we still have a relationship with them, and it's an eternal one. It's just different. And they give us a gentle nudge and say "I'm still here, but go now and live your life." 💚 No one knows you better than Annette, so of course she wants to listen! đŸ„° ~Shirley
  6. Nashreed, wanted to send some love and light to you. Keep talking to Annette. She hears you. I talk to Stephen every day. Know in your heart she hears you. I've heard many thoughts on why we feel we don't receive signs from our loved ones across the veil. We want smack you in the face signs. And then we try to convince ourselves it couldn't be a sign. For most, it's a smaller, gentler sign. Easy to miss. Here's an example for me recently: I spent two days in deep grief a few weeks back. Now I know Stephen is "still right here." But I couldn't lift my spirits or vibration. Upon coming out of the grief, I was driving somewhere. I never look at license plates in front of me, but a strong urge came across that I should. License plate on the car directly in front of me read - CME. I said Okay, I see you.💚 I had lots of undeniable signs especially within the first six months. No, I don't see him here, he doesn't talk to me. But oh there are so many others. I know his soul, and I know when the sign is from him. Center on the heart. And do keep talking to Annette. ~Shirley
  7. Just to add my experience with SS. When Stephen crossed the veil two years ago, I opted to begin at age 62 drawing on my social security. When I reach 66, which is the full benefits age for me, I can then switch to Stephen's full benefits which are considerably more than mine. I was given the option by SS to go on widow's benefits, but that would have been much less than Stephen's (when I reach 66), and if I chose widow's benefits, I would have been locked into that permanently with no option to switch at age 66. I was fortunate that I am able to do it this way. ~Shirley
  8. As I have private insurance for the next 16 months until I reach 65 (private in that this is NOT from the healthcare market), my flu shot was not covered. Out of pocket would have been $44, but GoodRx had a coupon so got it for half that price. And it was cheaper than a doctor visit just to perhaps have it covered. When I saw them being offered at my pharmacy, I took it immediately. GoodRx has really come through for me for those one-off meds my insurance doesn't cover. Again, this is private insurance..... it's complicated. But then what insurance isn't complicated. ~Shirley
  9. I am southeast LA an hour west of New Orleans. Just some blustery wind as nowhere near the cone. Chance of tornados as on the bad side. No loss of power, etc. I was prepared and my home was shuttered down. I believe Marg will have more of an impact. Marg, sending positive thoughts your way. ~Shirley
  10. Tamera, I wanted to pop in to send you some love and positive energy. Beautiful photo of you and Richard. A lot of love there. You can search my posts for my story. Stephen's angelversary is coming up shortly. Two years. My how time flies. Sure we miss the physical, but their bright souls are always connected to us, always with us. That dream you had sounds like an astral dream. It is a way for our loved ones across the veil to get through to us, through the heavy of this physical plane and the heavy vibration of grief. You'll know the difference - dreaming nonsensical stuff or interaction with our loved one in dreams. I had one with Stephen where he told me he could only stay an hour, then when the hour was up, I didn't want him to leave. He leaned in and gave me a big hug, and when I woke, I could feel that hug on my physical body. The feeling, the knowing.... there was no doubt. Our loved ones across the veil want us to move on, to be happy. After all, they have learning and stuff to do on that side as well. You are starting your journey. Putting up feeders and noticing the birds and nature are great healers. So commune with them as much as you can. Sit in the beauty and calm. And know that Richard sits WITH you. Glad you are awakening to self care. Richard is NEVER disappointed in you. The soul holds no judgment, no disappointment, no regret - only pure love. Talk to him. He hears you. And he will rejoice when you get back to biking and walking. He's most likely nudging that thought to you. They do that! Totally understandable about the photos. I managed, in time, to bring some of those things back filled with love and not grief. Not all of them yet, but some. One hard part for me was that I moved from our home a few states away to be closer to family. For a few months, I hated my relocation. Stephen's "footprint" wasn't here, where in my other location I could visualize him everywhere. I am past that now. Because he's here with me sharing this new adventure as well. I seldom ask now why Stephen had to leave. Later I realized that his leaving was a spiritual awakening for me, one I would not have had otherwise. Along with the missing him is also the gratitude for his final physical act of love for me. I catch myself when I discover something new, or do something, saying I wish you were here with me or to see this. Because he IS here with me and sees. The veil is very thin. 💗 Richard will always be with you because the love never dies. It can be no other way. Continued healing and much love to you and Richard. ~Shirley
  11. Hi Andrew, I'm another who isn't here often, but I wanted to reach out to send you love. August will be two years since Stephen crossed the veil. I made it through the worst of grief that we all experience and have come to a place of acceptance and peace. Yes, I still have grief times out of the blue, but not as intense. I've learned you can't push them aside, that you must lift your head, breathe, and walk through those grief moments. They will make you stronger even though it doesn't feel that way. You are okay to be just where you are. No one's grief is the same, and no one can tell you how to process. It's a sacred ceremony for each of us. I just relocated home to be near family, something Stephen told me to do when he became ill if the worst happened. Not fun house hunting virtually, preparing a home to list, arranging for movers, then trying to settle into a new space. I didn't leave Stephen behind. He is where I am. I started on his memory garden and will add some of his ashes when it's complete. Just know that the love never dies. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. Jenna is eternally part of you. Talk to her, she hears. And don't be surprised if you get an odd sign or two. I still get them from Stephen. This group has been a lifeline for me. You are in a safe, welcoming place. And you're not alone. Hugs, Shirley
  12. I have not sought the services of a medium. I know Stephen is still right here. 💙 But I would highly recommend you seek an evidential medium. One who can confirm with evidence, as opposed to just "your loved one is here sending you love." Some top mediums can take years to schedule a sitting. And the costs are high. The Windbridge Research Center would be a good source for a list of tested/verifiable mediums. Hugs, Shirley
  13. Codie is going through separation anxiety, quite natural as he is adjusting to a new environment. Just give him lots of love and cuddle time. Crating seems cruel to some, but it is really a healthy thing for your pup. Stephen and I both worked when we brought Louie into our home. Until he was potty trained, one of us came home every day at lunchtime (changing wet towels in his crate - using towels is a great idea, by the way - then we'd take him outdoors to potty. Puppies have a baby bladder. That will develop in time when they can hold it longer. We are older, more settled in our ways, less patient, and have more want for a steady stream of our days. Yours is turned upside down for a while. A new routine in both your lives will develop. You have the opportunity to work with a clean slate with a puppy. The outcome will be grand as you two move forward. Miniature husky, how cute is that! You're doing great! Keep up the good work! Hugs, ~Shirley
  14. Congrats Kaye! I remember when mine (a Westie) was a puppy. He is my first ever dog. We crated him when we brought him home at 9 weeks old, and for two weeks, Stephen and I took turns sleeping on the floor on couch pillows in front of Louie's crate. Stephen warned me the unbelievable sound that comes out of a puppy at night. We also were so blessed in that our pup never chewed anything other than his toys. I am sure baby stage in all things is the cutest and most challenging. You will do fine! Hugs, ~Shirley
  15. FeralFae, I haven't been here long enough to know you, but in a very spiritual sense, I do know you. Your metamorphosis is clear. So grateful to see you've embraced this change. I also live in the knowing that our loves in spirit are indeed here with us. I just passed year one of Stephen's angel anniversary recently, full of love and gratitude, no sadness or grief. A week before he was extremely present both in undeniable signs and my first dream visit. I don't need validation that he's here, as you know Doug is with you. I now strive to live my days in higher vibration. May your journey always been filled with moments of joy and balance. Hugs, ~Shirley
  16. I'm still here, just lurking. Second day of difficult grief for me. August is coming up, first year anniversary, and it's on my mind. Not all the time, but it bubbles up. Yesterday I was really distressed. I have one tshirt that still smells of Stephen tucked away in a ziplock bag. While in grief, I went to it, and it didn't smell of him. Of course I was all stuffed from weeping. Didn't think of that until today when I revisited and the smell of him is definitely still there. I know you guys understand.... 💙 We always will remind ourselves to take it a day at a time. Sometimes those days are very long though. Hugs, ~Shirley
  17. Sue, I think this is a beautiful idea. I'm glad to read you accept your family's decision. Don't let it cast a cloud on this day. Embrace the intimate ceremony with gratitude and love in your heart. 💙 Blessings to you. ~Shirley
  18. Mitch, just wanted to send some love to you. Good for you. You hang on to that glimmer, take a deep breath, and move forward with it. We'll be here to cheer you on. Hugs, ~Shirley
  19. Kaye, yes you can give Arlie milk thistle. I had my pup on a supplement when his liver panels were severely elevated. An expensive supplement. Vet then said I can give him milk thistle off the shelf now. Still giving him the other supplement until it's gone.
  20. Kayc, just wanted to send some love to you and Arlie. Take a deep breath, then go on to give you and Arlie as much special time as you can while you can. Arlie's soul will always be connected to yours. And when the time comes, George will be there to greet Arlie. ❀ You and Arlie chose each other for a reason. Unconditional love. And the love is eternal. We'll be here right here with you. Hugs, ~Shirley
  21. Davis s, Angels come when we least expect them and need them the most. This stranger's soul reached out to touch yours. Blessings to you. And to him. ~Shirley
  22. Not an anniversary (I had that in May), but today is Stephen's 56th birthday and the first with him in the spirit world. I woke up just filled with love for him. I picked up his favorite cupcake yesterday, put a candle on that, sang happy birthday, had a little chat with him, then blew out the candle and ate the cupcake. I'm sure he rolled his eyes, as he didn't care for the birthday fuss. 💚 Grief still reaches up, but not today. Today is sacred space. Hugs, ~Shirley
  23. I don't question if it's a divine sign. I am spiritual but not religious, quite a different path for me since Stephen transitioned. God, Spirit, the Universe - we're all a part of the whole. Angels and spirit guides are everywhere. Trust your heart. 💙 ~Shirley
  24. JTP, I can certainly understand why 444 can be painful for you. (I've recently started seeing 444 either in the middle of the night or during the day when I happen to look at the clock.) Perhaps the below might give you some ease. It did for me. ~Shirley Repetitively seeing 444 is a blessing. Seeing 3-digit number patterns like 444 is a sign that you’re receiving divine messages from higher realms. These angel messages are very important to you at this time of your life and they serve as clues or guideposts to help you along your journey. Because you're always being guided, have faith that you have total divine support. Above all, when you see number 444 repeatedly, the Universe wants you to know that whatever you're going through, you're going to be okay. Just remember that your guardian angel was assigned to protect you in all ways – so hold on and persevere, follow your inner compass that points toward the light, and you'll get through this safely. That's a promise. Because there are multiple reasons why you are seeing 444, it's essential to carefully listen to the soft whispers of your heart and sense what 444 means to you. Follow your intuition for the next right steps. To help you along, here are the 5 common spiritual meanings and reasons of why you are seeing angel number 444 everywhere. 1st Meaning of 444: You are on the Path of Awakening When you see 444, it's a sign to let you know that you’re on the path of spiritual awakening. You have become more aware of the spirit within you as you are feeling the subtle energies of the Universe. The more you start learning about this new path, the more you want to discover who you really are. Are you suddenly more interested in the spiritual nature of things? Are you into spiritual books and people? The number 444 is here to tell that you’re awakening and you're on the right track of entering another dimension on a higher spiritual plane. 2nd Meaning of 444: You are Fully Supported in Your Life Journey The angels want you to know that they are close by to assist you in your life journey. Because you have free will, they cannot interfere in your life until you give them permission. All you have to do is ask them for help and guidance, and they will be ready to help you. Talk to them as you would chat with a friend, and ask questions about anything and everything that matters to you. Remember that angels love you unconditionally and want to help you, but they can’t interfere unless you ask for their help! 3rd Meaning of 444: You Are on the Right Path, Just Trust Another possible reason why you’re seeing 444 is that you’re on the right path in your life. 444 is a clear sign from the Universe that you are exactly where you’re supposed to be in this moment of your life. Trust your journey, trust the way your life unfolds, and trust that you are where you need to be at the present moment. In other words, 444 is your messenger telling you to have faith and be confident that things are going in the right direction in your life. 4th Meaning of 444: You Are in Harmony with the Universe Whenever you’re seeing 444, the angels tell you that you’re resonating with the Universe in perfect synchronicity. You’re living a truly harmonic moment with creation, and you’re ready to unravel its deepest mysteries. The meaning of 444 is that you’ve become aware of the spiritual dimension and the energies within and around you. The more you learn about yourself as a spiritual being, the more you will understand that you’re not separated from existence, but you are one with the Universe, always in perfect harmony. And this is amazing! 5th Meaning of 444: Listen to Your Intuition Once you understand that you’re fully supported on the path of awakening and that you’re unconditionally loved and vibrating in harmony with infinite creation, all that’s left for you is to listen to your intuition. This is the 5th significance of 444, and perhaps the most important of all. What this means is that you’ve reached the point in your life where you’re ready to transcend personal limitations, society conditioning, and anything that stops you from becoming your True Self. Follow your heart and listen to what resonates with you, and this will lead you to your life purpose and True Self. Seeing 444 is no coincidence at all. It is a divine sign from the Universe to help guide you on the right path. Embrace everything that happens in your life by trusting how things unfold. And remember: you’re exactly where you need to be right here, right now!
  25. JTP, wow on the bobcat! Don't doubt for a moment that it wasn't a sign from Bob. Those in the spirit world are always with us, always. Unfortunately, not on our terms, but they are here. 💜 Kieron, same here. Your soul knows. 😊 I've had many signs from Stephen since he transitioned. I still have them, just don't always see them. Two days ago I had a weepy moment. Later when I came to my computer, it was at the start screen with his name up. This has happened multiple times. No doubt he popped in to say hi. So I talk to him, invite him in to join me anytime he can. ~Shirley
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