I have only posted a couple times but, as I said in a previous post, I am here almost every day reading. The support and caring on this forum is amazing....so time for me to introduce myself. My husband was diagnosed with advanced liver cancer on June 27, 2018 and died 3 weeks later on July 17, 2018. He had not been ill...just said he didn't have his usual energy. He was still mowing the yard, walking our big yellow lab 4 miles every day and enjoying retirement. He was a young 65 year old. We never had the opportunity to try any kind of treatment or even come home with hospice....the cancer was very aggressive. So although this was not a sudden death like a heart attack, it was sudden in that I never had time to process one thing before getting hit with another....but we did have time to talk and cry together. During one of those talks I promised my husband I would be OK....and now I am trying to figure out how to keep that promise. This past November was our 38th anniversary and my 58th birthday (we got married on my 20th birthday). I have lost both of my parents and my only sibling but this is the most debilitating grief I have ever experienced. I have read many books on grief, read a lot of forums and blogs and keep trying. We were each others best friend and did everything together. I am lost without him but determined to work my way thru this...I just miss him so much.
I still work but our plan was for me to retire in December....so this should be my glide path right now. We had so many plans for our retirement years together. I have decided to delay my retirement for a few more months until I am sure I am thinking clearly. It is hard to come to work....I keep tight control of my emotions while at work which is exhausting.
With this introduction, I hope to be more active on this forum and learn more, share more, reach out more and, possibly, even help someone.