Thank you so much for being willing to share, particularly because it may be such a complicated memory. I wonder whether you and your husband had any discussions about that after the fact, or whether you resumed a regular schedule of intimacy? When did it--if at all yet--begin to feel OK (to use your language "unfrozen")?
Please of course feel free to message me directly if any of these seems too intimate for a public space. Or, of course, simply ignore it altogether!