I lost my beautiful girl in May and I thought no other cat could replace her. She was 17 years old and my best friend. It's now September and I've decided it's time for more cats in my life. I think it would be a shame if we only gave our love to one individual, there are so many beautiful souls out there who need us. I'm sure that if there is a heaven, she's sat somewhere sunny and warm, well fed, sleepy and content, looking down on me, happy to pass on the baton to the next generation. I think that when we choose to offer a home to a new cat, we don't shut the door in our hearts on the ones we lost, we just make room for another. If you feel like you are ready for another, then go for it. It doesn't have to be him. He was special in only the way he could be, but another cat can be special too, it doesn't take away anything of what you felt for him. She was my first loss as an adult too, but it comforts me to know that, if it was such a big loss, then it must have been pretty wonderful, and it was, and I'm grateful for that. Welcome the next generation. Good luck to you, and I am so very sorry for your loss xx