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Thank you so much for your kindness and for sharing with me. Though I am very sorry for the losses you have had as well, I take a lot of comfort in knowing that this is normal to still feel this way. You are right, he was with me all the time and was the biggest constant in my life, and to me, animals are no different than people, and feeling his loss 10 months later is normal. Though I wish we didnt have to feel this pain, how lucky am I (and it sounds like you are too) to have had such wonderful beings in our lives. Thank you so much for writing to me.

Thanks so much Marty. I have done some of the above suggestions. Most especially, the memorial to him. Which I treasure. I think sometimes it just surprises me that, 10 months later, it still can hurt some much at times. Some days I am perfectly fine, and then other days I cry a lot. Thank you for your support and for this site.

It's been 10 months since my dog passed away. He was with me all the time, even at work. We were the best friends you could imagine. As close as two beings could be - we just adored being together. He was very healthy and a month shy of 9 years old when he passed away. We were on a walk in the woods together and he just sat down, looked at me and was gone. It was a beautiful day, in his favorite spot, with me and no pain, so in some ways, it is the way you would hope anyone you love passes away. I, and quite a few other people, including paramedics, tried to save him, but he was just gone in a flash. They think it was a respiratory event (he was a french bulldog so the snub nose can cause complications). Sometimes I am fine, and then other days or moments, I feel no further along in processing the loss than I did that first day. I don't know if I am actually processing it at all. I feel like I should be more ok than I am. I miss him so much it is still unbearable. And i feel like my heart doesn't fully believe that he isn't coming back - i just can't wrap my mind around it. I understand this more in the beginning, but I feel like I should be doing much better processing this, and being ok without him, than i am.