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Jen75

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  • Your relationship to the individual who died
    Owner of pet
  • Date of Death
    4.12.19
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
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  • Your gender
    Female
  • Location (city, state)
    St. Louis missouri

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  1. Yesterday, two days after Snooki’s death, my husband was finally able to express his grief and the feelings of missing Snooki and he broke down. The sorrow and pain he feels and has shown is far more than the death of a close friend or relative. After reading the links here, I know it’s going to continue to take s long time to learn to live with her loss. My heart is broken and the house is so quiet. Sometimes I think I hear her scratching on the door in the mornings. I hope the sadness dissipates so we can work and continue our lives somehow but Right now I don’t want it to go away because I feel like I’d be forgetting her. 😔
  2. Sharon, thank you for this uplifting and sweet picture of your new babies. My family’s special baby passed on Friday. It’s hard for me to think about replacing her because the grief is so raw right now and it’s just not possible to find another cat friend like her. She was always there for us, laying on my husbands chest with her face up on his chin. She lived him dearly and they were the best buddies and bonded more than anyone s else in the family. He was quiet for two days and broke down last night. I know it’s going to happen many more times and we’ll never stop wishing she was here and missing her every single day. Thank you for posting your happy smile with a Bubbles and Squeek as it gives hope to me that we will be able to go on and even maybe add another baby that will also become a best friend to our family like Snooki was to us for so many years. Much love 😊😊
  3. Dounia, my kitty was accidentally killed Friday in a tragic accident. I cried almost nonstop until Sunday morning when I reached out to my animal lover friends and family. Even though you asked them to move the wood, know it was an unintentional accident. I have never lost a beloved pet until Friday and with it being completely unexpected it was very emotional. Try to remember the good times and happy times with your kitty and not the last moments when she died. I also wrote a page of the good times my kitty had with us and it helped me think of the great life and love she received as our family pet. If you’re able to get away someday and start a life safely away from any forms of abuse it will help you. Be sure to only go live with a safe loving female family member time friend that will understand and protect you while you continue to grow into your life as an adult woman. You are very brave, smart, unique and strong. You have a passion for something you enjoy and look forward to and let that carry you through as your life changes for the best. Stay strong dear💗😊
  4. Yesterday I gave him my letter and expressed my sorrow and regret. I’m not sure if he read it or not. It’s sitting on the couch next to him. I know he’s deeply hurt and we all will be for a while. Snooki was our baby for a long time. I’ve read all of the support links and they did help. I also decided to let my friends and family know. Only the animal lovers though. They have all been comforting and I’d strongly suggest this to anyone that feels ashamed and guilty over their pet loss. I know my friends will continue to offer kind words and support. It took a couple days to be able to tell anyone and get out if my bed and it’s helped a lot.
  5. Thank you for this suggestion Marty. I hadn’t thought of trying this so I’m going to sit down and write him a letter now. I appreciate your help.
  6. Thank you for your supportive responsesMarty and Kay. I’ve read the links from Marty and am getting ready to read the links from Kay this morning. Any unexpected pet death is horrible but knowing Snooki was our perfect loving, precious and loyal important part of our family makes it feel unbearable. This is the first pet loss I’ve experienced and to know what I’ve put her through and caused her to go through in her last moments all alone and scared is beyond painful. I know my husband is feeling the same devastating loss and pain so I’m not blaming him for his reaction yesterday although it does make it hurt double to be verbally blamed by him to the extent he did it with such aggression. It makes me question him as a person which is not something new. I feel isolated and alone without forgiveness or at the least for him to state that he does know it was not intentional. It’s a lot to shoulder that I’ve done this along with his reaction. I’ve attempted to gingerly approach him twice and he got up and threw something and went into a yelling rage. I feel he is extremely hurt but also somewhat emotionally immature. Thank you again for reaching out so quickly, it’s given me moments of peace to read the links and positive ways to cope.
  7. Snooki was adopted from the humane society a month after we applied to take her home. She was 6 months old. We’ve had her for almost 10 years and she’s been an incredibly loving, precious and fun cat. Just perfect for our family and our favorite pet because she is so affectionate and entertaining. Today We lost her because of my stupidity and not thinking about what I was doing. I clipped two leashes together and clipped that to her collar. She jumped up, got caught and I’m sure you can fill in the rest. My husband found her and we are devastated. I didn’t realize and obviously didn’t think through putting her in a leash. I’m sick, crying nonstop and the amount if guilt and grief is very much overwhelming. I think about what Snooki went through and how she had a great happy life with us and then I do this to her. I feel ashamed and dumb. Our son is 14 and he loved the her very, very much. Everyone is upset and sickened. I feel grief but also so much guilt from my dumb decision. My husband found her and immediately said and repeated over and over, “omg, you killed my cat!” He went on in a rage for 20 minutes holding her while in shock. It’s now 5 hours later and I’ve tried to talk to him and express that I’m sorry and we’re all upset but he angrily and aggressively yelled and repeated the first initial response. My son heard all of this and he is doing what his father did as well but mostly ignoring me. I feel horrible and just want to express how it obviously wasn’t intentional. 
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