Omar

Abandoned by both family & friends after the death of my mom. Older sister with Alzheimer's is in a home. Older brother has wife to help support him emotionally & keep him company. When I was handling the executor duties of mom's estate & had money to dish out, he was very interested in maintaining a familial relationship with me. Once the money was dealt he was completely done with me. I've done yardwork, shoveled snow, bought dinner for us all so we could share time together (and he has *way* more income coming in than I do!), sent emails, stopped by his house to visit (3 doors up from me & half the time or more he doesn't even bother to answer the door), brought him cookies & cakes, tried phone calls (about as interested in me as he would be talking to a collection agency)….none of these actions is EVER reciprocated! Mom & dad would be rolling in their graves...we were ALL a loving family back in the day! I can't depend on my brother for anything---not even a ride out of town to have a cancer surgery performed. He could take paid time off work without any problem to do so, but the fact is he just doesn't care about me at all. I have to rely on a neighbor couple to take me! Neighbors/friends are all shocked & sad to hear how callous my brother is! Yet he has time & money to lavish over a young woman & her daughter that he met in an internet marketplace site & will travel to the next state to visit her family any time she asks. And he thinks I don't love him!!! Ha! I've done everything in my power to show him that I did, but now I am backing away completely. Ditto with my former best friend who also hasn't had much time for me since my mom passed away---too close to home for her & her 90+ year old mother. So, death has taught me a lot about life. Most importantly it's taught me that the people you truly think will always have your back are not the ones who will be there for you at all; it's the folks you least expect who will actually step up to the plate for you with love & assistance. A hard pill to swallow, but a sorrowful fact of life. Moral of the story: just because someone is related to you by blood does not mean they are related to you by heart. Be strong, navigate your own way in this world & enjoy the blessing of having those who do care surround you.