Jaye Bell

Grief is extremely hard.. I am currently grieving the death of my sister... she died 2019 on my birthday...there are no words. Your BF is handling this the best way he see fit. I felt myself getting into an isolated mode but I am currently in counseling..which is helping. I know its hard for you to deal with because you love him and want to be there..but the best thing you can do is give him his space. I pray he open up to you at some point. Nothing wrong with checking on him from time to time.

I agree to a certain degree. I am grieving my sister's death...she died tragically on my birthday 11/23 of 2019. I have been married 35 years (separated 3 years but back together). My husband is an introvert and does not handle emotions very well. I need him to hold me and tell me its going to be ok. I need him to make me laugh, make me smile..that's not his character.. however I love him and accept him as he is..however grief is super hard. I am not taking sides but this is very hard for him and he is handling it the best way he see fit for him. I would not shut my husband out..however, I feel I am going through this without him. When grieving it brings up all types of emotions..from the past to the present. The best thing she can do is give him space. He may/may not open up to her.

Thank you kayc for reaching out. I do have a support system..mainly counseling. So sorry to hear about the loss of your sister. There are no words when it comes to the death of a love one. We move forward the best way possible.

Although this site does not seem to be too active by looking at the dates of the post, I will post my story and hopefully others will reach out and can relate. My middle sister died tragically at the age of 62 on my 60th birthday (Nov 23, 2019). There are no words as to what I am going through. I am currently in counseling...which is helping. Within 5 years, I loss my mother, older brother and youngest brother and my sister. Prior to my sister death, my younger brother's death hit me the hardest, we were very close..that's when I found a wonderful counselor and that was about 5 years ago. However, the tragic death of my sister hit me the hardest. She was killed by a hit and run driver on my birthday while crossing the street. I did not find out until the next day. I had a great 60th birthday celebration. I am sure it was not meant for me to hear the news until the next day. Grieving brings out so many emotions and pass hurt and pain..that is why it is sooooo important to not sweep things under a rug and think it will go away because it won't. It will re-surface in one form or the other. It is so hard in dealing with pain whether it be from relationships, divorce, etc., but it is very necessary to deal with it because again, at some time or another , it will re-surface. Grieving is so hard and I cannot imagine anyone going through it alone.