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  • Date of Death
    05/08/2020
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  1. I appreciate it, truly. Yes, life isn’t fair at all.
  2. Metal - I’m so Sorry about your loss. Yeah it’s very similar to mine, I read through your thread. The only slight difference is I wasn’t expecting Lauren’s death, it wasn’t cancer (I don’t think), she wasn’t sick. It was out of nowhere, which makes it so much harder to understand. We have her ashes, but still the death certificate says “pending” for cause of death. It’s been a month today, and today was really hard for me. They said it could take up to 6 weeks for the autopsy to be completed fully, but considering we already have her ashes they’ve obviously done all the tests they can do. I don’t know what kind of closure it would bring, but I just want to know why my best friend was taken from me when she was only 33 years old. Her birthday next month will be a rough moment to get through. I appreciate you commenting. I hope the best for you too, man. It’s just not fair....
  3. Wow, I thank you all for such generous sympathy and caring. It really helps knowing I can reach out to you all and have people who understand what I’m going through instead of the cliche empty words (even if they truly do care, they just don’t know what to say) . Tomorrow marks 1 week and NOTHING has gotten any easier. In fact, complete opposite. Her mother has also started texting me less, and I feel like I’m intruding if I text and ask how she’s holding up. We still haven’t gotten an autopsy report because everything is so delayed right now. I guess it will offer a small amount of closure, like If there was something that couldn’t have been prevented even if I did something differently that night. The what if’s are killing me. And the guilt is consuming. I appreciate all of your advice. I hope I can maybe be of assistance to someone else who may be in our positions someday. My heart will always have a gaping hole for the rest of my days.
  4. I lost my soulmate and girlfriend of 16 years this past Friday (5/8) . She was only 33, had sooo much life left to give. What you describe hits home so much because only in a mere 5 days since, I feel like my friends and family have completely moved on already. On day 1 it was “anything you need I’m here, anything.” But now it’s like “ohh umm well let me take care of the kids first” . I get it. People grieve differently and people react to grief differently. But it’s definitely real what you are feeling cuz I’m absolutely in the same boat. It’s like they are too scared to even be around me because they don’t know what to say or don’t want to hear me talk about it anymore. It’s a real crappy feeling indeed. I think finding a community that knows how eachother feel and what we are going through is much more helpful than reaching out to people who may be considered “best friends”. This has been awful , but watching my “friends” back away cuz of being scared to talk to me feels even worse.
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