Vivian, I see you dear. Your Loss is heavy and worthy of being heard/felt. I never feel you are diminishing anyone else’s loss, you are simply expressing how you feel and that is your right. I have been in my own shoes of loosing, my sister, my parents, my cousin, my grandparents, my best best friend in high school, many other family member, my most beloved pets and finally from one day to the next my support system: My beloved husband, all losses were felt and time healed but I did notice my husbands loss to be life-shattering, and I had to find a whole new way to heal this loss, it’s been a little over two years, and I can honestly say for myself, that I know how I felt. We all have a loss that changes us forever and this one was the one for me, it changed me, transformed me, and I know now that we all have that one loss that does this to each of us. Feel heard, I’m sorry you had to go through so much pain . Many times people comment out of the hurt they are feeling and they feel the need to defend, but no one has been in your shoes, not even if you had a twin, so feel what you need to feel dear, for it is in that grief that healing takes place, one moment at a time...In joy and kindness
