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Lexilou

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  1. Beautifully said kayc! Helping others is a fantastic way to help heal your heart. I'm so sorry for your profound losses. I think the grief we feel forces us to dig deep with ourselves and, like you said, use what we learn through it. I am finding through losing my Lexi, I'm opening up to so many new and wonderful things. I would give anything to have her here with me, but knowing I will be with her again, comforts me deeply.
  2. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It is tough, I know, to find your way once your soul mate is no longer in the physical world. If church doesn't make you feel good, then don't go. Since my Lexi passed, I too habe tried to make sense of her sudden tragic death. I feel there has to be a greater reason for it. Since her death, I have began a journey of my own. A spiritual journey finding my true purpose. I have learned that everything, Everything happens for a reason. Sit with yourself. Let yourself feel whatever you feel and be ok with it. Be good to yourself. Get fresh air. Be in nature. Eat and sleep. I truly believe that when our pets pass they live on in the afterlife and visit us in spirit. If you talk to them and think of good memories in your mind, you will in time feel their presence around you. I recommend this book: The Amazing Afterlife of Animals by Karen Anderson. It helped me sooo much in the worst of my grief. Healing hugs to you❀
  3. Mama looks like a very happy dog. Full of life and sunshine. I enjoyed reading your story. Blessings of love and I hope your grief lessens over time. You're doing all you can right now. Take care of yourself❀
  4. I hope you find your way out of the crippling grief. I am still overwhelmed with grief myself, but am also reaching out to other groups, ideas, books, etc. I have found so much positivity through reading Karen Anderson's books. It is afterlife material, but I do believe in that now. I honestly feel as if my Lexi's sudden, unexpected death, was for me to find my path to a more spiritual way of life. For, I cannot believe that the manner in which she passed was for nothing. I know there has to be a reason and I am on the path of discovery. I still grieve her everyday. I cry, I call out her name. But, I am also searching within myself for the path I'm to take now. I'm 49. I better get busy!. I'm so sorry for your tremendous loss. It is grief that is, like you said, crippling. Hugs to you❀
  5. Hi Debbie. Thanks for messaging me. I am getting along. I miss my girl intensely. I have found a group on a website called pet loss.com. it is a chat world wide. If you go to the site you will find others in our shoes. New ones old ones. So many. They have a candle ceremony every Monday night in your time zone. 9pm for me. I'm central time. Anyway, I invite you to this. Follow the instructions to create account. Its free and you can add your beloved to the tribute list. And tell your story. Everyone is great. Loving. Welcoming. I look forward to seeing you there if you so choose. Take care Debbie. Your baby is with you in spirit. I promise. Hugs. ❀❀
  6. Thank you for this kayc. Very comforting with great insight. Hugs❀
  7. Please reach out to the links Marty suggested. And YOU'RE NOT ALONE!!! I'm holding your hand and comforting you right now. ❀❀
  8. Do you have anyone to talk to? I mean other than on here? I know it is awful pain.
  9. Hi Debbie. How are you doing lately? Ive been thinking of you and hope you've found some comfort.
  10. Ok. Thank you. I'm clearly not a tech genius. Lol
  11. Marty and Kay... Sorry I havent quite figured out how to reply to individual posts/comments. Its a little confusing to me. I do love the obituary Marty. That is very insightful. And I know I need more time to grieve. Somehow, it seems as if it's been a lot more time than it has since she's been gone, you know? Like time is standing still right now... Do you feel that way?
  12. Ive had a lot of friends and family tell me the best way to get over losing your dog is to get another one. I cant even imagine that. I dont know how I'll feel down the road. Right now, she's all I can think about. Its a longing. I cry less times a day, but the times I do, I cry longer. It is grief I never knew existed. That makes it difficult to imagine going thru this again.
  13. Your love knows you and knows you would never hurt her. We are so good at blaming ourselves. It is useless to do as it has no meaning on the other side. Try to let go of the guilt. I am working on that now. It's hard but necessary to allow the light to come in. And they have so much light. It helps to talk on here to deal with my grief. My guilt. I hope you can focus on memories. As it helps you and it helps her. ❀
  14. That was a message from her for sure. What ive been reading and hearing from this wonderful FB group is that when you feel something or you see something and you think of Buttercup, don't talk yourself into thinking it is just coincidence or your imagination. If it feels real, it's real. Its been a rough day for me but I'm slowly releasing the guilt. It's not stabbing me in the heart at every turn. Its there for sure, just seems to be lightening. I think because I know Lexi loves and adores me. She knows I would never do anything to harm her. And I say that in present tense because I know she is still with me. Her spirit lives on with me everyday.
  15. There are definitely signs! Little messages. If you keep your eyes open and mind open, I believe we receive little messages from them. I just watched your little video with Buttercup in the swing. It was so sweet! He looked very content and looked like he trusts you completely. I know everyone says time heals, maybe it does. Idk I'm still struggling but its only been 2 weeks. I have so many of the same feelings you have. Grief is exhausting mentally and physically. We just have to do our best to get through it. Not that it will ever go away, but I'm hoping it becomes bareable at some point. Hugs to you❀
  16. don't feel guilt. Guilt will tear you up. Let me tell you what happened to Lexi. I always. Always leave empty boxes of cereal next to my trashcan. The boxes are too big to put in the can but I'll know to take them out when the trash gets full. Ive left empty cereal boxes on the floor nest to the trashcan at least 100 times before. 12 days ago, my boyfriend had gotten me a new scooter. We went to go practice on it. Gone 45 minutes. When I returned, I went inside and looked all over for my Lexi. I walked outside and told Andy that Lexi wasn't inside. He said, well she has to be. So I looked again. The last place I went was the laundry room. She never hung out in there. But that's where I found her. Huddled, in a corner. Bag from cereal box snug over her head. We tried like he'll to revive her. To no avail. see, Lexi was my soulmate. The light of my life. We were so close. I am mad at God for depriving me of being able To hold her as she crossed over. I feel your pain! I feel it every minute. For I am suffering right along with you! I feel like her death is such a cruel and that i didn't get the chance to say goodbye and hold her close as she passed. Please understand that our loves love us no matter what. That's what is keeping me sane right now. I'm so exhausted now that ove relived that moment. Let's talk tomorrow. Hugs❀
  17. Debbie, yes it's late. So, hopefully you will have sweet dreams and read this post when you wake up. No need to talk about how much money you have or don't have. None of that matters here. What matters is the love and devotion you have for Buttercup. I can tell its a lot of love so let's focus on that love. He only wants the best for you. Try hard to remember your wonderful memories, as I'm sure there are plenty. He loves you so much. Whatever happened in the end is not important in the grand scheme. He knows you love and adore him. I am sure he walks beside you because that is what he knows and is comforted by. It is late and I am missing my Lexi. I'm going to settle into bed but just know our babies are with us. That's what gives me comfort at night. I will tell you all about what happened to my Lexi tomorrow. I just can't go there tonight. I miss her so deeply it hurts. I understand your grief and I hope we can be there for one another to carry this weight that feels so very heavy. Ttyl. Thank you for reaching out. ❀
  18. I would live to hear all about your Buttercup. Feel free to share everything on here with us❀
  19. Hi Debbie. I can feel your pain. It is very deep. It is a strange world, isn't it? We are given a gift so full of overwhelming love and joy. Then, one day, it is taken from us. Grieving like you are sounds a lot like my grief. It overcomes you and all you wish for is more time with your love. My Lexi was 13 and passed on only 12 days ago. It was an unexpected freak accident and I am still struggling every day to come to terms that she's gone. I am told that if you try to think of the best of memories with them, it helps you move thru your grief. I am new at this too, but reaching out to all different sites and articles and people with all sorts of perspectives. It helps comfort me. I talk to her all the time. In between tears and gut wrenching sorrow. It is very hard. Just know you're not alone and your baby loves you and is with you all the time in spirit. I really believe that. I have to. Thinking of you❀Hugs
  20. I feel your pain. I, too, lost my border collie 12 days ago. She was my world. We had a very special closeness that sounds similar to yours. Journaling helps me as well. I, too, am functioning, but little else. The pain is deep, I know. There are many articles shared on here that help a bit. I also recommend a book called "The Amazing Afterlife of Animals" by Karen Anderson. It is very comforting and covers so many things. There is also a Facebook group you can ask to be a member of called Animal Communication Planet. Lots of others sharing their stories of their pain but also of their memories. There are communicators on there that may attempt to connect with deceased pets from the other side. This may not be your thing, but it has helped me cope and see how wonderful it was for us to have been each other's best friend. Just putting that out there in case you are interested. Sending hugs to you and prayers for healing.
  21. Kay, how are you doing? I hope you know you're not alone. Reach out whenever you would like. Pour your heart out on this page if it makes you feel better. Caring thoughts sent your wayđŸ™â€
  22. Hi Kay B. I understand your pain. It is overwhelming. I lost my Lexi 12 days ago. She was my soulmate and taught me what true love is. I am struggling right along with you. She passed without warning. A freak unexpected accident when I wasnt home. Feel blessed that she passed in your arms. It is important that you were with her when she crossed over. Remember that. Even though it's unbearable, she passed with you holding her. There is an animal communicator her name is Karen Anderson. She has a few books called The Amazing Afterlife of Animals and Hear All Creatures. I read the first one and it helped comfort me in my grief. There is also a Facebook group of hers called Animal Communication Planet that you can ask to be a member of. I know it's the hardest thing in the world to go through. Just know you're not alone. Hugs to you. ❀
  23. Has anyone heard of Karen Anderson? She is an animal communicator and I just finished one of her books. It is called "The Amazing Afterlife of Animals". She has an app and also a Facebook group called Animal Communication Planet. It has helped me. Just wondering if anyone knows about her or had experience with her.
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