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Bettie

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  1. My husband suddenly died on October 30 last year. He had been ill for quite some time and had had brain surgery 10 months before he died. We had been married for 50 years. I retired from my job so I could take care of him full time the last year of his life. We were both born and raised in a big city, but when my husband retired 8 years ago he wanted to move to the country 90 miles from the city where both our daughters live. Our daughters are not fond of country living, and only came to visit us 2 or 3 times a year- which we accepted 4 months After his death, I sold the place and moved back to the city where my daughters live I was pretty lonely, as can be expected. I knew I wanted someone special in my life to fill the lonely hours. Low and behold someone I knew from the country town we lived in started texting me a couple of months ago. We only texted and talked on the phone for a month or so. He finally came up to take me out to eat about a month later. I like this guy a lot, and he feels the same about me. He has a business in the country town and also goes by everyday and sees his 89 year old mother, making supper for her and buying all the supplies she needs. Therefore he only comes to the city one day a week to see me I don’t have any desire to move back to the country, so I don’t know how our relationship is going to go. He says he wants to sell his business in a year or so and retire, but of course we have no idea how much longer his mother will live - so there is always that responsibility hanging over his head. Of course she could hire a caregiver to do all the functions he presently does, but he would have to get over the guilt feelings. All in all he loves living in the country and I like living in the city - so once again I have no idea how far this relationship is going to go I’m just wondering when I should tell my daughters about him. I would like for them to meet him. I wouldn’t say I’m real close to my children. We talk about once a week and I watch two of my grandkids two afternoons a week. I plan to be there for my daughters if they need me, but I must admit I’m really enjoying the attention I’m getting from this special man Also what is the appropriate title I should give him when I’m introducing him to people I know. Friend doesn’t describe our relationship, boyfriend sounds outdated, I don’t like the phrase guy I’m in a relationship with... Help. I know eventually I will see someone I know when we are out together and I will want to introduce him. Also I’m concerned someone I know will see us out together and it will get back to my daughters before I have a chance to tell them
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