It's been 9 months since my middle brother died. My own health has not been good and I wonder how much of what I am feeling physically, Mentally, and spiritually is tied up with his death. He stepped in when I lost my Dad very young. He was, for a time, a surrogate Dad. He was a bridge between the oldest and me the youngest; making sure everyone stayed connected. He was a caretaker for my mom. which, in hindsight, allowed us other siblings to pursue other interests. You know when he died. at home, I wish I could have seen him to say goodbye. I live in another state far away. He wanted me to come but said don't because of the Covid virus, and the hospital wouldn't have allowed it anyway.
As I sat down to write these few lines this afternoon tears roll down my cheeks. Not only did my brother die but I had to clean out the house where he lived ( our homestead) and sell it . It was a house packed full of memories and a place to always come home too though as the year went on we didn't come back as often. I have 2 older siblings left back home. They are much older, and I really didn't grow up with them as much as the other ones that have passed. I feel good that these tears are emerging. My health issues are being addressed and I do believe, to some degree, they are entangled in my grieving. I come back to this sight periodically to grieve my losses and am grateful for the responses of others. It's an emotional home for me.