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joe57

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  • Your relationship to the individual who died
    husband
  • Date of Death
    12/1/2020
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    NA

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  • Your gender
    Male
  • Location (city, state)
    northern Wisconsin

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  1. nash and gwen-hard as it is, I thank you for sharing where you're at, what's going on in your lives. I appreciate you doing that. There are people that hear and care.
  2. Gwenivere-your sadness comes through this post. I feel for you. Hugs. "But as life becomes more finite and with less refills..." I like how you expressed this, thank you. God has our days numbered, that is true. But then, if we know Jesus as our Savior, we will be spending eternity with Him and loved ones, where, as the song says "When we've been there 10,000 years, bright shining as the sun, we've no less days to sing God's praise than when we'd first begun." Beth and I had talked about death after her dad passed, then she lost a close uncle, then a brother. I was close to them also, and
  3. You could have talked to her for 10 minutes and would have fallen in love with her! I received a sympathy card from a cousin and his wife today. Part of it read "She was such a joy to be around. Always so bubbly and great stories to tell." And they only met her a few times! (Of course, these words bring tears, but seems just about every remembrance does yet.) Very special, very awesome gal who chose to hang around me which is very humbling. But I'm sure we all feel that way about those we have loved and lost. That reminds me of something I heard/read: Better to have loved and lost than to hav
  4. Hi, kayc. I'm humbled that you would honor my precious queen that way. Thank you.
  5. I wrote that 4 a.m. this past Christmas morning, when I couldn't sleep. I woke up and it just kinda came to me. Glad you enjoyed it. I pray that it will help those who have experience/are experiencing this pain of losing your precious love.
  6. I hop in the car, and I go for a ride Nowhere to go, just wanting to hide From the pain that I feel (feels like death) So what am I doing? I’m looking for Beth. And wherever I go, there she ain’t Where I am, there is the pain My heart is broken, I can’t catch my breath The rest of my life I’ll be looking for Beth I know that here on this terrestrial ball When looking for Beth and I give a call No answer will come, it just cannot be I’m bound by time, she’s in eternity “Be joyful for me, I’m with our dear Lord
  7. kayc, I missed your reply on this and just saw it. My Queen is in the excellent place, no more doctors, hospitals, clinics, appointments, pharmacies, etc. But I miss my role as caregiver and I cry as I write this because that was a big part of who I am/was. Now it's just trying to figure out who I am but I don't really want that, I just want to be who I was, and it's really hard to let go of that but I know one day I will have to. Peace. Joe
  8. nashreed, I just reread your last reply on this. She was a brave, beautiful soul as you so well put it. Brought tears to my eyes, again, but thank you. She had over 35 hip surgeries over the years, along with other surgeries, and I was with her through them all, staying in the hospital when I could, and then helping her get around at home until she healed some. She was braver than I could ever possibly be, so I would like to be brave for her through this grieving/mourning/bereaving. It was very difficult for both of us that I could not be there as much for her in October and November beca
  9. From “Heartbroken” by Gary Roe Most of us who are grieving need reassurance. Perhaps you do too. While grieving you need to know that: You’re not alone. You’re not crazy. You’re going to be ok Emotions will come. As they do, acknowledge and feel them. Don’t get in a hurry. Take your time. Be nice to yourself. Remember to breathe. Hugs.
  10. You are not alone. Keep coming back here. I joined about a week ago after losing my pretty little wife about a month ago. Just reading about other's pain helps with mine. Keep sharing. Peace.
  11. Tom, thank you for your words and encouragement. I find myself crying at the smallest remembrance of Beth. She was the half that completed me. All dreams of the future revolved around her so I find myself just drifting in a rudderless ship on the sea of life now. Joe
  12. Thank you, kayc. My pretty little wife departed this earth December 1. We were married for almost 25 years and were perfect for each other. She had uterine cancer as an infant, and they radiated the heck out of her pelvic area (1961). Because of that, she had hip problems and we finally removed her left leg in 2008. But she was still the same girl-beautiful, spirited, joyful, inspiring to others and playful with me. We tried a prosthesis briefly but she got another infection in the other hip again so we just pulled the hips out in 2010. I’ve been pushing her in a wheelchair for 12 years and he
  13. I have several books on grief, I find them helpful. It’s been a month for me. The book Heartbroken: Healing from the Loss of a Spouse by Gary Roe was very helpful. Feel what you are feeling, it’s ok. Peace.
  14. Thank you for posting this, Tom. I lost my beautiful and precious queen about a month ago. I’m grieving but I don’t think I could ever let her go, nor don’t believe I want to. So there are those of the opposite sex who are thinking the same thing. Again, thank you and I wish you both the best.
  15. When my wife and I first met, we lived 200 miles apart. I’m in the area now, and I’ve driven by her place a few times. Driving around, grieving, talking to her, missing her tremendously! Seems like I’m bargaining with God: if I’m a good boy and do the right things, maybe she’ll come back. If I pray real hard, maybe she’ll come back. I know it’s not to be so I just sob some more. It does help to get it out but after awhile my head hurts and I feel numb. Then I can be numb and kind of zone out and not feel for awhile. I love her deeply, so I grieve deeply.
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