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  1. Again, thank you to everyone who takes the time to read, respond and pass on your words of wisdom. If there is one thing that I have learned in my 64 years, it is to listen to others who have been down the road I am traveling. The words you give to me sting and they hurt, but I know they are coming to me with love. So... thank you all so much. Pat
  2. I just saw a couple of pictures of my Rhonda that were sent to me for approval for the funeral... I just lost it and cant settle down. My God it hurts worse than it ever has. I just don't know what to do. It is just so hard.
  3. Thank you to everyone. I am sure that everyone has thought this, but I pray all the time for the lord to just come and get me. I am just so tired of the pain, the sorrow, the emptiness, the cancelled dreams, the hurt, the loneliness, I miss her so bad, and I am just so tired of being emotional.
  4. My Golden misses her but he is my boy. The two little dogs are depressed for sure. I give them a lot of love and attention, but then it hurts because they were her dogs and I see her when i look at them. It is hard.
  5. Thank you for these words. I shed way to many tears for sure. Today I had to go out and do yardwork and it was so very hard because we always did it together. I cried the whole time and hated being out there alone. I just hurt so bad because I used to maintain the house in perfect shape because I wanted her to be proud to come home to our home... Now, I have no reason to do so.
  6. When I read all these testaments from all of you it helps because I know that I am not alone. The pain is still unbearable, and I get all sorts of other people saying that things will eventually turn around and I will find happiness someday, but those people go home to their homes filled with happiness, laughter, love, and peace. I walk into a house with three wonderful dogs. But two of them are Rhonda's dogs who are depressed because they cant find her. My house is deadly quiet and her chair sits empty. Unless a person has gone through this the words they give are just empty to me.
  7. Thank you to everyone who has responded here. Your words all ring so true, especially because you have been through it. I just don't know what to do anymore. The grief seems to just come and envelope me like a blanket collapsing on me. I am so lonely right now and have no one to talk to. I have always thought I had a deep faith in God, people say God has a plan, now I am just really angry with Him. People say this is part of His plan... well that plan really sucks.
  8. I am just getting started with the loss of my wife two weeks ago. I am sad that people may stop caring about me way before 5 months... but I can certainly see it happening.
  9. Thank you, I am so sorry for your loss after 50 years. Rhonda and I always talked about how wonderful 50 years would be. One thing that I appreciate here is that those who respond have been through this horror that I am in now. So, when I read things that others say, it means something to me. I am tired of all the cards and well wishers, including my own kids saying to be strong. I played and coached football for over 40 years, I was plenty tough mentally... but all the mental strength in the world does not get me through this pain.
  10. Thank you. My entire world has been turned upside down. Every 5 minutes it seems like something about her pops up and I realize that I will never see her again. It just feels completely overwhelming and I don't want to live any more. Its just too painful. I also have been a very private man who dedicated his life to his wife and four kids. So, I know a lot of people, but have no friends to talk to, or who could come stay with me. I just don't know how to get through this, or do I just resign and give up... Man life can be so hard sometimes
  11. My name is Pat I am 64 years old, I live in Montana, and two weeks ago today, I lost my wife of 42 years. Rhonda was an amazing woman who married me when she was 17 years old. She was simply beautiful, but never acted like it. She was fun, athletic, goofy, serious, religious, and kept me in line all those years. I thanked God every day for allowing me to have such an incredible wife. Together we raised four very successful children who became solid members of society and we ended up with 11 grandchildren so far. Rhonda was always a very healthy person… until last June when she
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