Ssister

Thank you so much for replying. I really appreciate your suggestions and the letter writing exercise is something I will do. I will also take a look at those books and the links. Thank you!

Hello, I just found out recently that my brother, whom is in his late 40s, has been diagnosed with inoperable brain cancer. He has 7 tumors. We haven’t seen each for over a decade and now we are back in-touch due to his battle with cancer. I am finding my emotions around this reunification after so many years to be very confusing. I am already anticipating his death and how I will feel when he passes. yet I have already grieved the loss of him over a decade ago. It is as though I am talking to his ghost now. We can’t see each other because of Covid, so that adds another layer. Basically, I am extremely sad, angry at him for not coming around sooner, when he was well, and the fact that he doesn’t want to talk about why we didn’t speak. I would like to, but I feel muzzled because it is a dying mans wishes not to talk about it. Is that right? I don’t know... I have been to a grief counselor, but I don’t know if it helped yet. Only one session, so I should keep going. Any sage advice would be helpful.