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  1. I don't know if this will relate to situations that other parents have experienced, and I don't know if my actually relaying our experience will help, but here goes. My son passed away on New Years Day (2021) after an 8 yr battle with Myltiple Myeloma (cancer). His bravery and suffering was unreal. It was bad enough to see our son (57} suffer especially at the end. But, how we were treated before, during and after his death, well, its just burning through my very sole. I do realize that his wife, children do come 1st ..and that they have suffered horribly. But, we were not even acknowledged, completely left standing as though we didn't exist. No consideration for us to even have a place to sit, nothing...just nothing. I must say here that my sons wife never did really treat us like part of the family, but it was tolerable over the yrs. There were no real conflicts, or arguments. We did not want that. After the funeral his wife actually said to my husband, while still standing at the back of the church and after giving her a hug, " Don't be a stranger, don't forget where we live" I actually didn't know she had said that to him till much later. I did reach out to her a few days later, and her first remark was " I didn't think I would be a widow at 62". She talked about selling the house, retiring. That was the last time there was any contact with her or our 2 grandchildren (18 & 21) .She was 6 yrs older than my son. Anyway I could go on and on..her and would take hours, but...I just had to kinda spill my guts as to the horrible horrible feelings that we are experiencing, and how its bad enough to lose our son, I just hate that I have to even waste a minute of my thoughts regarding this. So, here I am...here is my story. Thank you for listening to me, cause no else does..everyone is kind of staying away, or think that I am being over dramatic..Thanks again..
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