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Chocolate

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  1. The issue is not anyone showing up at your house. The issue is bots out there collecting data on a person. They put it all together, open accounts in your name and your are liable for the bills they create. That's what having one's identity stolen is about. Most people who experience this are financially ruined. No one is exempt from this.
  2. kayc, you may not see the burned trees, but they are there and they are there with every burn. It's horrible all over the place in places where there are massive fires. This time they will not grow back they way they were because of the lack of normal amounts of rain. The jet stream no longer brings the rain we used to get because the ocean has warmed up. We've hit a point of no return. People don't seem to realize what the climate change really means. I did tell you before that I was in the Coast Range and how far away I was. I won't repeat it. The reason I am not more specific is because it is not a good idea to have a person's location out there. There are computer programs that can scan websites, collect the information and use it for purposes of identity theft. My husband worked in the computer software field. He knew exactly how a person could do that.
  3. Unfortunately a lot of areas like where she lives now have dead black trees sticking up all over the place. All of the west has burn scars now. It's worse every year. My grief is exacerbated by this.
  4. I've mentioned to you a number of times approximately where I live. Apparently you forgot. I had smoke from the Cedar Creek Fire off and on since it started, but not as bad as you or Eugene. I am tucked into the mountain. I found the latest data online, and the fire is out except for a little smoldering thanks to the recent rain. I get my television news out of Eugene. I know it was horrendous for you there. The fire danger is logical, when one thinks about it. We haven't had enough rain for years. The trees are dry and dying from the bottom up. My husband and I cleared out the things growing close too close to the house about 25 years ago. The problems is that most of the fires this year were caused by lightening.
  5. We are in a climate emergency right now. Studies, including one done at Oregon State University point to this. Everything that burns damages the environment. I'm in the Pacific Northwest. Our electricity comes from hydroelectric power. Since we are in the middle of a huge drought in general, at some point there will be none of that either. The only good power is generated by solar and wind. True, the hole is there.
  6. Yes, houses need repairs. When I lived in an apartment I was always concerned that someone else's carelessness could burn down the place I lived. My dad was paranoid about fire. As far as RVs go, they burn fossil fuel, and that is one of the things destroying the climate and life on this planet. So living where you live is a better option.
  7. The sounds of others would annoy me. I hate the place being empty of his presence. The animals in the yard comfort me. We learned to talk to turkeys and deer. They do have language. Crow are neat birds. To me the sounds they all make is special. After living in a house I would hate living in an apartment. We each have to find our own way.
  8. I'm so sorry you lost your dad. My husband has been gone for 9 months and I still don't have an appetite. I eat out of duty to my body. I know if I don't eat I will literally starve to death and the process will be awful. I watch my husband starve to death because of the cancer.
  9. Has anyone ever known someone who's family was mafia? It's quite enlightening. I had a dear friend, who passed now, his grandfather was the Don. Grandpa insisted my friend not be in the mob. So when I heard of The Sopranos, I wasn't interested in watching.
  10. I'm so sorry. I couldn't stop my husband from leaving me either.
  11. I'm telling you the way we were raised. I know what the Bible says about this. So many things get interpreted the way whoever is reading it reads. The person could get a divorce, but not remarry. I abandoned the beliefs. She did not. I won't get into a religious discussion here. She lost herself because of it.
  12. For my sister was a matter of having been raised that it was a sin to get a divorce. Her husband fooled around. He robbed her of her self-esteem and a number of other things. He did take good care of her as she was dying, but....
  13. I miss my sister too. She needed to dump her husband and find someone else. She stayed and it took a hit on her health.
  14. A lot of dementia is caused by the multiple medications we take in our older years. They can interact negatively with each other and leave us in a fog. I studied that in college. It's still the same. There's no way to let the family members of my friends know that I need to be contacted when they die. I have no access to them.
  15. Yes, animals seem to know. Beck sounds wonderful. You're right about people's responses. It seems like animals are higher souls than humans are.
  16. My little cat Po sleeps beside me every night and has been a huge comfort since my husband died. Among the living, Po is my best friend. I call him my lifesaver. How an individual dies makes such a difference.
  17. When I'm in the depth of pain I have no emotional/spiritual energy to do anything, even when the person is caring and means well.
  18. The worms can come out of the woodwork at the time of death. The parts of my family that were estranged remained that way at various deaths. I had always thought when I was younger that I could "fix" things if showed my compassion and revealed the good person I am inside. I was wrong. Some things can't be fixed. I think most people are broken in some ways, and unless they take steps to fix that themselves it spews over onto others. That's a hard thing to accept. And oh 'tis comfort small To think that many another lad Has had no luck at all. A. E Housman
  19. It's a doubly whammy when your best friend is your soulmate and suddenly they are gone. Suddenly doesn't have to mean they all at once died. Suddenly just means, no matter how long the death process took, all at once no one lives in that body anymore. I miss sharing my thoughts and ideas with my friend/husband/sweetheart. I was/am far closer to him than I ever was to any of my other friends. I have had other dear friends die, and with some of my friends who are still alive, I wonder if anyone will let me know they are gone. When it comes to handling the situation at the time of a death, often family members are so overwhelmed that "friends" get left out of the contact list. The older a person gets the more this is true.
  20. I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis. I think all of us who have lost a soulmate feel our health go downhill. How do they plan to treat it? Will you need surgery? Will you have chemo and/or radiation? Is there anyone to take care of you and take you to appointments? Have you felt your wife with you since the diagnosis? My husband lived 8 more years after his colon was removed. As for me, if I get that kind of diagnosis, I've decided I will just allow it to take it's course. There is no one to take care of me in any way. You will be in my thoughts.
  21. I do know the difference. She is very ill with M.S. and in horrid pain. The only way to cure the problem is to not talk to her at all. I don't want to do that. That would be unkind of me.
  22. I met my soulmate/twin flame at the river. He was on vacation fishing, and I was healing myself from the death of someone else. He came over and asked me if I'd seen any fish. I thought it a unique line. Turns out it wasn't a line, but we were together after that for 31 and a half years. We both knew....
  23. For me it's been 8 plus months, so on the monthly-versary it is still very hard, and I think of what I was doing at the time of his death and about the events leading up to it. Last night I had a life-long friend tell me it would get easier every day - that I'm healing. She was trying to be supportive, but she is not with her soulmate. They both settled for each other. Well, I will never be healed at least not in this lifetime. I told her so. People need to realize it is different for each of us, and if the one we loved and lost was the love of our life, it will never really be okay. So I spent the night more achy than I would have been if she had said nothing. I'm thinking that I need to stop sharing with people who have never been there.
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