FreebirdNY1958
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Gwenivere....very well said. The months of the year and whatever significant days they include for any of us, now become triggers for grief to occur or return. For myself, I have decided to ignore any sort of holidays anymore. Just too painful... I go very low key and just do the absolute minimum or do nothing. No pressure is a good thing. Everyone is different. I have no family or social support anymore, so I have to do what's best as a solo.
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Hello James and thanks for the Welcome. Very much appreciated. 18 years feels like an eternity. No way to sugar coat it. Some days are very intense....anniversary type days, holidays, out of the blue trigger days.... I have no magic recipe for coping. I have sought out and done 1:1 counseling as well as reading all sorts of grief related articles online over the years. There are no BandAids. You just have to dig deep and carry on as best as possible. October is the roughest time for me....my husband and Mom's passing dates both occur. Somehow I get thru it. Finding this forum will be very helpful, I think. J
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thanks Each of the 4 links at the end of your reply took me to a blog creation site, which got confusing fast, so I closed them before I got to somewhere I didn't want to be. The first link for "our guidelines" was fine and displayed the content without any sign in or blog creation requirement. I'll try finding the topics in a separate Google search.
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Hello all, new kid on the block here as of yesterday. I found this forum via a recent Google search on how to deal with the anniversary of a loved one's passing date. It's been 18 years but every year is still a struggle. I've read up on anniversary triggers and manage to get thru it. I am feeling better today. Whew....the intensity still amazes me. I am looking forward to participating on the site. I've been reading a lot of the posts already. J