walleye205

Hello everyone, This is my second post and I certainly don't want to post every little thing...but something happen this weekend and I wanted to get some insight from this group. Here's my question: When my father past a lot of freinds and family were very kind and tried to help as much as possible, but the one thing everyone kept saying was "if you need anything please let us know" after hearing that about 50 times I think I started to get tried of hearing that and promised I'd never say that to anyone going through the same thing. I'd rather DO something than say something. Question: One of my good golf buddies lost his wife Sunday morning very quickly and she leaves behind 3 boys (12 yr, twin 8 yr olds) and I was wondering from you guys, if anyone did something that was really helpful, that really made a difference. I'm going to give my love and support and pray for the family that's already a given, I was hoping to do more, if someone had a suggestion. Thanks, Walleye

Thank you everyone for your responses, I just needed to know that my mom was greiving normally and nothing was "out of the norm". God bless you all and have a great new year.

Lori, Thank you for you advice...I'm going to continue checking the boards and hopefully I'll find something I can share with my mom. I'm taking one day at a time and learning to cope with the pain in my heart, not accepting, just living with it and understanding the love I have/had for my father and choosing to remember all the wonderful things he did for me in my life. I have three little boys of my own and base a lot of their upbringing on how my dad was with me. I miss being able to call him more than anything, nobody else cares about my golf scores, but my dad loved to hear about every shot. I still look to the skies and talk to him all the time knowing he's listening and watching over me and my family, always making sure I do the right thing. Thanks, Walleye

Hello all, My father past on 10/21/06 and I miss him everyday and all the time. I believe in god and find comfort in knowing he's in a better place now and hurts know more. My concern is for my mother, after 53 years of marriage she is now alone (I'm the youndest of 6) my brothers and sisters try to help in the heeling process, but it's very hard on all of us. Here's my question: My mother goes to my fathers grave site everyday and I believe she's starting to get addicted to going to the site and feels she is doing something wrong if she doesn't go to the site. Is this normal? how long should she continue to do this? I realize there is no time on the greiving process and it's hard on all of us now, I just don't want to lose my mom, maybe this is something that should be monitored and maybe trying to get her into consuling. Any help or thoughts would be appreciated. Thank you, Walleye