Annette, i know how you feel, i lost my dad in August of 2005, my brother in law in september of 2005 and my mom in November of 2005. I have a brother and sister , sister in law and nephew and his wife. We knew that my dad had cancer and was dying, but we had no idea that my brother in law and my mother had cancer also. My brother in law and my mom must have been sick before my dad died but neither of them said that they did not feel good. When they finally told us that mom had cancer she lasted 9 days while my dad had it for over 2 years.I am the youngest of the 3 of us and took care of my parents because i was the only one not married. My parents were married for 55 years. I was 49 when they died. I would take care of them if i could have them back. My mom could not take care of my dad alone so i quit my job that i had had for 15 years. Cindy