Dear Marty, It has taken me a while to come back and check my original post. This is exactly what I have been looking for, and I know it will help our family members understand each other as we walk through this journey of sorrow. My husband is planning a major renovation and add on to our home. I was against it at first, explaining to him that we need to take time to heal before we make a decision as this. He was adamant about it, so to keep from having hurt feelings, I decided to follow his lead. I can look at this as a huge disaster, or, I can look at it as a diversion. I may be pulling my hair out and screaming next week, but, we do have to go on living and we shall do that to the best of our ability every day in every way!!! Would you mind if I print this and share it with my family? I also have a another forum I visit, and this article would help everyone there and they would appreciate it so much. I would be sure to give your name, and make sure these words are shared with your credit, not to be something spoken from my mouth. Thank you so much!!!!! BEACHWATER