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Thanks so much for this site and your imput Marty, pls say hi to David Sanchez if you see him, his mark is with me to this day! Blessings,

Kay convinced me I needed to say something, guess I had to muster up the courage to do so. I know you all have your bad days and some good also. Perhaps supporting each other and getting past our inhibitions to do so, I may be at a point in my life but I remember every day the pain I felt and still feel time to time, Myrna came through to me through the Holy spirit one day and told me I had to move forward and be equipped to do so. Our love ones dont want to see us sorrowful and torn, just to listen in silence we can hear and feel their touch from beyond if we are open to it. Blessings,

Thanks Marty, I read the article to the last letter, though I am in a relationship, it fit me to a tee in the beginning, I wished I read that first!

Kay and I reconnected some time ago and she mentioned some of you that like myself haven't posted in awhile, lets reconnect! P.S. I posted another topic in General Grief & Loss Topics, a brief summary of my life in the past year, love to hear from you!

Happy birthday Kim, you held courageous all this time and kept your spirit up, Imagine Dan looking down and smiling with pride at you! A virtual hug from me in cyberspace to you

Hi some of you, may remember me from awhile back, its been a long time since I wrote. Well, my life has been progressively better, I am in a loving relationship for a year now, fortunately she has been supportive of my down days of grief, now I accepted Myrna is in a better place and wouldn't come back in any case, I been assured spiritually though my six senses that she only wants me to be happy and content. Through and through, my faith and friendship with some of you (whom I speak very often to) eased the weight of my heart. It may seem an end to our lives w/o our loved ones but if they could speak, they would tell us to celebrate life and remember the good times we had while they were with us. God Bless, William

Thank you guys, so much for commenting here and I missed alot of you, I have been doing good, well, er being a year older ugh! Thank you Mary Linda, Corinne, Kay, Teny and of course my dear Wendy, and some of you I haven't met yet. I pray for this year to be better for all of us, and to think we DID make it another year thanks for remembering me today!! Kay, I read your post recently, i am so sorry to hear what happened and it's just not right, would I be still a ok guy if I could go down there and straiten things out? And how have you guys been doing? is there anyone with a birthday today? P.S. I check my im to see if its working

Gold, thank you for your kind words, I had many bad experiences, scammers sending fake money orders, people that arent what they claim to be, oh i could go on, I noticed when I became a widower eventually wanting companionship, the landscape was different, 10 years later, have you been able to find peers that interest you locally? with the daily hustle and no-one paying attention to others anymore, I have to wonder does the old methods still work

HI Gold, Fred has some good points, I am very shy and awkward myself and found myself devastated for a long time knowing because of that above, I wouldn't meet anyone, i may get some heat for this, but I signed up with several dating sites and very cautiously and made many mistakes along the way, eventually found a wonderful gal I am still with today, most importantly exposing yourself online to an extent will pique someones interest, but firstly I would wait for about a month before meeting someone in person, I had some bad and good experiences but scrutiny and caution are always the best in this case.

Wendy, I miss our friendship, however the circumstances in your life are difficult and turbulent, thanks for your friendship and wit , I'll keep you in prayer, and perhaps in time hear from you personally. Godspeed and peace..

Wendy my dear, this saddens me deeply with the news, you and your family are in my prayers and thoughts.

LOL you guys! coal? heh I hope to keep the nose I was born with, I am open to anything but a flaming firestick at my snowhead

We have been close friends and never saw you in person, but it may happen someday when Denise takes me there, wow 55 is hot? imagine that, gosh my bloods so thin I probably be a snowman in Jersey

Wendy, its been so long for me to see such beauty, unless cactus and tumble weeds are a fancy, I been here so long I dispise it, Denise says she doesn't miss it but its cold for her when its 55F LOL. Its been a lifelong dream to go to my roots back east, hopefully she can be persuaded too, wish me luck on that!

Corinne, I havent been this happy and now Wendy finding someone, its been a double blessing! Fred, I think you might be mistaken, I love the snow, and hate the summers, especially june-september when it reaches the triple digits. I been to Flagstaff and dewey and its great! I often meet people from the east and how much they tell me the snow is rough, today is beautiful, but colder would be nice now with a big yard, soon I will dig a pit with a big bonfire and a beer LOL

KayC, Beautiful story how The good Lord looks after his little ones Wendy, are you thinking of relocating? any solid ideas? I'd imagine no snow right?

Wendy, How God in his infinite wisdom uses each other as examples of hope and inspiring each other, you have done so much for me and given me such hope in the opposite sex that Women are some of us men that that cannot do without! Derek, I don't know if I spoken to you at length at times, but I regard you very highly, your openness to attest your faith, and prayers for those in need. I myself; during the darkest hours of my life without hope, see a ray of sunshine for each of us finding happiness in one another and someone exclusively for you. what a a joy I feel for you and Wendy, shes a remarkable woman! I have been blessed with Denise, AND blessed to see two people that found each other in this journey, who would've thought??

Derek, Its been a long time since I posted also though I peruse from time to time and I'll start this off by expressing my joy and excitement you and Wendy are together, Wendy is an amazing gal, and she has such a joy now. I always respected you and your openess of faith and you guys are just fitting for each other, as the Good book say, what God has put together; no man can put asunder, this has been an inspiration for me personally. I see a higher power at work here. Blessings! William

Karen, its never easy, though I would like to think it is sometimes, mental illness is a constant battle to function and live a quality life, hopefully Danny will find what he needs and recover as long as needed. I have the IM here on the site. Kim, I am sorry to see you go but in the other hand, its a recovery right? I know what you mean about being with someone, sometimes, it is a stress dealing with another personality, theres been times myself just going back to the life post widow, the med was interfering with aspects of the relationship which there was no quick fix. hard to get a doctor sometimes. I don't know what happened to us losing contact, maybe at the time alot was happening, I did switch over my number, you can email me and I give you a new #, I really like your friensdhip and I don't have anyone locally that knows our situation and loss. william

Thanks Guys,its not always simple in a new relationship, especially with mental illness, sometimes I just want to go back to being single Being here is like a second home, just confusing this life isnt it?

Karen, of course I remember you , and our conversation on the phone awhile back, I am happy that his issues and health are addressed in the way for the both of you, how long ago did this happen to him? I had my ups and downs still, and as of late I am in the overdrive mode, I stopped one of my medications until I see my pdoc so I can have some normalcy right now. you can IM me too ok? sometimes I don't write or talk much but I hope its not taken personally, I am happy to hear from you Love, William

Well, I wish I had a picture of you blushing, you inspired me to settle for nothing less and showed me such friendship I have not known such in my life before I came to meet you. Love ya, William

Wendy, my mother was from Jersey, and Denise is from New York, I think its getting popular around here Kim are you relocating? I did that last year and it helped alot not having to remember places, things, all the such, I lived in Phoenix for 40 years and moved to E Mesa last December to start over, perhaps for some, that helps the healing and renewal. Mike, I believe in hope and finding love again, and when its least expected she will find you, I tried 3 - 4 sites at once, I think the ratio is 15 for 2 men on some of the sites

Hi Kay! good to hear from you too, well I did forget to mention her name oops. Well, its been challenging to accommodate her with sensitivity, she did finally ask a week ago things about her, she seems to feel more comfortable now, I had to tread lightly and slowly show her shes the "woman" now in my life, more importantly she needed the assurance I could love her as much on her own special way. Perhaps it was my thinking love is the same for each person but as we grow I learned her quirks, personality and stuff like that needs individual personal attentiveness just as she is. funny, she is like a Wendy though Of course she had given me alot of input in this too!!

SO much warmth here, I feel like home again, nice to hear from old friends, Derek, how have you been, that's very important for a child always to remember their mother no matter what, I had to take down some pictures for respect for her but gradually she came to accept it, but not knowing it bothered her sometimes, wasnt easy trying to figure out to keep a happy medium. Kim, congrats on your graduation, its been awhile since we spoke but you seem happier now and doing well. I always think that our dear ones are rooting for us and keeping us upright, though it doenst always seem that way doesnt it? Wendy, well, I had alot of inspiration from you not to settle to fast and rest but wait patiently for the "right" one to come in my life, not just for being lonely but the long term, right now I am attempting to break the habit and reach out rather being withdrawn. love ya all William