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MartyT

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About MartyT

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    Grief Counselor
  • Birthday 02/10/1943

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  • Your relationship to the individual who died
    mother, daughter, friend, pet parent
  • Date of Death
    5/26/67, 9/3078,10/06/93
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    NA

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    tousleym
  • Website URL
    http://www.griefhealingblog.com
  • Yahoo
    martytousley

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  • Your gender
    Female
  • Location (city, state)
    Sarasota, Florida

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  1. I'm so sorry, Kay. I know from personal experience how an incident like this can destroy your trust. When my boys were younger, we lived next door to a family with a black Lab. My boys would always warn me about that dog, telling me how he had tried to bite them at times when they were over there playing with the other kids. But I knew better. After all, like you, I've been a dog lover all my life, and I just KNEW that this guy would never bite ME. Until the day I encountered him on my front porch, knelt down to say hello, and he bit me on my arm. I was absolutely stunned ~ not seriously hurt, but stunned. Whatever trust I'd had all my life up to that point went right out the window. I learned my lesson that day, and I've been far more cautious around other people's dogs ever since ~ most especially around those not raised by me. Have you considered reporting this to Animal Control? I was hesitant to do so when this happened to me, but at the time, my physician father told me that such an incident should be reported ~ especially if you don't know whether the dog has been vaccinated against rabies. At the very least, you should ask his owner if he's up to date on his vaccinations.
  2. For what it's worth, two of my granddoggies are pit bulls, and they are as sweet and as gentle as can be, and they are great family dogs. Pit bulls have been vilified in the media as dangerous and vicious monsters, but it is the owners of pit bulls (and of any other breed, for that matter) who are to blame if their dogs are not properly trained or worse, are trained to be aggressive. See, for example, 10 Reasons Why Pit Bulls Rule ♥
  3. Oh Kay, I'm so sorry. To think that someone who loves dogs as much as you do, and who is so willing to open your heart to another homeless pooch ~ and to think that you are faced with so many obstacles ~ as you say, it's ridiculous. Beyond ridiculous! I hope and pray that yet another dog is out there, just waiting for you to find him (or her). You are one of the most determined individuals on the planet, and I truly do believe that one day you will find what you are seeking ~ not as a replacement for Arlie, but as a most deserving successor to him, and a living receptacle for all the love you have to give to a canine companion. ♥
  4. Join the Grief Chat! Join HFA grief expert Kenneth J. Doka, PhD, MDiv, as he discusses his latest article, Unmentionables, in HFA’s Journey’s newsletter. Unmentionables, Doka writes, are “certain reactions [to loss] that are rarely, if ever, discussed” in grief research. These private but common grief reactions include jealously and emancipation – “of being freed by death. This is more than relief…Emancipation is far deeper.” Read the Article September 26, 2019 1:00-1:45 pm ET Free and open to the public! All are welcome to ask questions, share experiences, and gain insight. Sign Up for the Chat Kenneth J. Doka PhD, MDiv Senior Bereavement Consultant to HFA and recipient of the 2019 Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Death Education and Counseling.
  5. You may find this article to be of interest: Seeing A Specialist in Grief Counseling: Does It Matter? ~ and be sure to see some of the Related resources listed at the base, too. ♥
  6. It takes time for the heart to know what the mind can see and understand. Knowing everything there is to know about grief and loss does not shield us from the pain of it.
  7. And I'll bet it brightens Joe's day each time he sees you, too, Kay! I hope that pesky bee finds its way outside before it finds its way to you!
  8. The only reason I had it done, Gin, was because at my last yearly eye exam I was told that my vision no longer could be corrected with eyeglasses ~ so I felt as if I really had no choice. I was not at all eager to have the surgery ~ and I most certainly did not take it lightly. Frankly, before the first operation I was scared to death. This is my vision, after all! But as I said, after the first eye surgery went so well, I had no fear for the second operation ~ and I am SO glad that I did it. But if you can wait and there is no hurry, then I totally understand why you would choose to wait. That is exactly what I did, too.
  9. I had cataract surgery this last summer, Gin, and for what it's worth, it was the easiest surgery I've ever gone through ~ and I've gone through a lot of surgeries in my life! I know you are facing this without your beloved Al by your side, and for that I am so sorry ~ but if you have any questions or want to hear more from me about the experiencec, just let me know. (My vision is better than ever now, and I don't even need to wear my glasses anymore. I couldn't be more pleased with the results, and I'm so glad I had the surgery!)
  10. Praying that you stay safe and dry, dear Kay. If conditions are that bad, I hope your elderly ladies will cancel their plans and relieve you of any commitments you made to them.
  11. We hear you, dear Kay, and we are here with you. At least in this way, you are not alone . . . ♥
  12. I'm so sorry, Mark, that this is happening to your dad, to you and your family. I invite you to read this article, in hopes that it offers some of the information, comfort and support you need and deserve at this most challenging time. See also the articles listed at the base: Anticipatory Grief and Mourning ♥
  13. Pleased (and proud) to share this news from one of our Discussion Group members, Maryann Mueller, aka Froggie4625 who writes, I would be honored that you share this news to all those who were on their journey along with me. I am forever grateful to those wonderful souls who gave support and concern and opinions and shared experiences that let me know that I was NEVER alone. ~ Maryann Arts in the Afternoon Brings Author of Grief Diaries Houston, TX – The Evelyn Rubenstein Jewish Community Center of Houston’s (the J) Arts in the Afternoon started three years ago with the idea that it was equally important to offer cultural events in the daytime as it is in the evening. Screenings of films, dance and music performances and book signings with best-selling and emerging authors are now offered on a regular basis during the daytime. The next upcoming event is on Monday, September 23 at 1:00 PM at the J with Maryann Mueller, co-author of Grief Diaries: Through The Eyes of a Widow and Grief Diaries: Surviving Sudden Loss. Widows in today's world find little support to recover and adapt to a life they didn't plan. Friends, family and others have little idea about how to help, leaving them in a vulnerable spot when they need support most. Author Maryann Mueller will share her experiences of becoming a widow and introduce her two latest book releases that touch on the subject of widowhood and sudden loss of a loved one According to the Loomba Foundation, a global research and charity organization, the average age for widows is just 59. "When a husband dies, a woman's blessed and happy life is suddenly replaced by one filled with multiple challenges that reach far beyond her grief. With little societal support, she's often left struggling to adapt to a life she didn't plan," said Mueller. "The book offers insight from widows who pass along their own personal reflections and tools for managing life in the aftermath, along with understanding for what the reader is going through." Mueller grew up in Western Pennsylvania and relocated to Houston in 2002. She met her husband, Mark, and they were married in 2009. Writing was always something that came easily to Mueller, but it became a way to deal with grief when Mark died in 2014. She hopes to use her talent to help anyone facing the same situation. Tickets for the Arts in the Afternoon Author Talk with Maryann Mueller are $5 Member | $8 Public and are available at erjcchouston.org.
  14. From Pat Kriesel, Office Administrator, HOPE For Bereaved, Inc.: Here is your link to the September issue of the HOPEline. May you find comfort in the articles-Love & hugs, Pat https://hopeforbereaved.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/08/SeptemberNewsletter2019withGRKInsert.pdf Pat Kriesel, Office Administrator HOPE For Bereaved, Inc. (315)475-9675 Fax 475-3298 Email- pkriesel@hopeforbereaved.com
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