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MartyT

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About MartyT

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    Grief Counselor
  • Birthday 02/10/1943

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  • Your relationship to the individual who died
    mother, daughter, friend, pet parent
  • Date of Death
    5/26/67, 9/3078,10/06/93
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    NA

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    tousleym
  • Website URL
    http://www.griefhealingblog.com
  • Yahoo
    martytousley

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  • Your gender
    Female
  • Location (city, state)
    Sarasota, Florida

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  1. This feeling is not at all unusual, my dear. I invite you to read In Grief: After Caregiving Ends, Who Am I? And coping with the grief that accompanies an overdose death is especially difficult as well. See The Grief of an Overdose Death: Part 1 and The Grief of an Overdose Death: Part 2 ♥️
  2. Oh Mark. I am so very sorry to learn this tragic news. My heart just hurts for you. How amazing that the two of you connected in such a meaningful way before this happened. I too believe with all my heart that your Susie and Andy, your brother in love, are together now and watching over you . . . ♥️
  3. I too listened to the webinar and like you, Mark, I also watched the McInerny TED talk. I am so pleased to learn that you found both of these presentations helpful. I agree with you completely that and I've no doubt that you will find your way through the darkness as you carry your precious love with you all the way. You might appreciate this one: In Grief: When Credit Is Due ♥
  4. I can think of no better way to describe it than this, my friend. Well said! I hope you will let go of the notion that you are not entitled to your feelings, whatever they may be. Feelings are neither right or wrong, and they're not always rational. They just are what they are: feelings, not facts. We cannot control what we feel, only what we choose to DO with our feelings. You are judging yourself for the person you were nearly a half-century ago, and that seems rather harsh to me. I don't think there is a person among us who doesn't wish we'd have done some things differently in the past, if only we knew then what we know now. I invite you to read this: Guilt and Regret in Grief ♥️
  5. My friend, your experience reminds me of a similar situation described in this article, which I hope will speak to you in a helpful way: Disenfranchised Grief: Mourning The Loss of A Dream. Make sure you see the additional resources listed at the base.
  6. Truth! I agree with you completely, dear Steve ~ you and Patty shine like beacons in the fog, and serve as inspiration to us all. Your loyal patronage and ongoing support for our GHDG mission is tangible, and I am so very grateful for your presence in our tribe. ♥️
  7. Added just now, Anne ~ and thank you! ♥️
  8. MartyT

    Meditation

    From our friend and colleague Karla Helbert: Valentine's Day can be one of the hardest days of the year when you're grieving. When we are missing our most deeply beloveds, grieving the pain of separation from them, every day of the year, is painful. When we are surrounded by a culture celebrating a day of love and hugs and touches and kisses--all of which we can never experience with our beloveds again--it can be particularly excruciating. I believe that remembering that deep grief exists because of deep love can make the fact of grief more bearable. If we never loved, we would never grieve. How many would relinquish love to be free of grief? I would wager not many. And I have not yet met the person who would trade their love to be rid of their grief. I know I wouldn't. The place of deep love and longing for our beloved dead is sacred. It is through love in that sacred space that transformation occurs. It is transformation we never asked for, but we are changed nonetheless. Grief and love are equally transformative. It is also through our deep love for them that we remain connected to them. Being able to express your feelings to another trusted person, writing them down, finding creative outlets for the pain and confusion can help. Finding ways to be in physical contact with others is imperative—get a massage, make the effort to be around those you love and trust, with whom you can share touches and hugs. Remember, even though it may hurt, being close to, loving and holding your beloved. Love is stronger than death and it is eternal. And it continues to grow in our hearts. My Valentine gift to you is this guided meditation from my book Yoga for Grief and Loss. This heart centered meditation can help support your heart and its energy. It may help you to feel more connected to your own heart center as well as to the Source of Love, to your chosen form of the Divine, and to your beloved dead. From my broken heart to yours. Love, Karla Access Your Guided Heartlight Meditation Here
  9. I too am so sorry for the losses you've endured. Your story reminds me of an article I read just this morning ~ about cumulative losses and what can happen if we fail to find a way to process them: What Martin Luther King's Daughter Has to Say About Grief ♥️
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  11. My heart hurts for you as I read your tragic story of loss, dear one. I know the pain of losing a newborn to death, and I am so very sorry that this has happened to you and your precious daughter. I offer the following, as it includes a number of resources that you may find helpful: Silent Grief: Pregnancy and Infant Loss ~ and I wish for peace and healing to your broken heart.
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