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MartyT

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About MartyT

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    Grief Counselor
  • Birthday 02/10/1943

Previous Fields

  • Your relationship to the individual who died
    mother, daughter, friend, pet parent
  • Date of Death
    5/26/67, 9/3078,10/06/93
  • Name/Location of Hospice if they were involved:
    NA

Contact Methods

  • AIM
    tousleym
  • Website URL
    http://www.griefhealingblog.com
  • Yahoo
    martytousley

Profile Information

  • Your gender
    Female
  • Location (city, state)
    Sarasota, Florida

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  1. I'm pleased that you've found us, but so sorry that your little toy poodle's death is the reason, my dear. Do allow yourself to mourn this loss, and when you are ready, we'd love to read some of those stories and see a picture or two of your loving, loyal little guy. ❤️
  2. My dear, I hope that reading through so many of the threads you'll find in this forum will help you come to terms with the momentous decision you had to make. I don't see how any true animal lover can make the euthanasia decision without feeling the guilt and regret that you so accurately describe. After all, this is a life and death decision, and once made, there is no going back. If you do some reading here, you'll find links to several helpful articles about this. See, for example, Guilt in The Wake of the Euthanasia Decision ~ and be sure to follow some of the links listed at the base.
  3. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this challenging time, dear Gin ❤️
  4. My friend, on the one hand I can assure you that thoughts of suicide are not unusual in grief (see, for example, Thoughts of Suicide in Grief). On the other hand, judging by what you have posted here, I must emphasize that this site is not intended for individuals who are in crisis and actively contemplating suicide. If you're thinking of suicide, read this first. If you are experiencing serious suicidal thoughts that you cannot control, please stop now and telephone 911 or call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Using your smart phone, contact the Crisis Text Line by texting HOME to 741741.
  5. Hello, Jaye, and welcome to this forum ~ although I am terribly sorry for the reasons that brought you here to us. You've had way more than your fair share of significant losses, and I agree completely with your statement that grief should not be borne alone. I offer the following in hopes that their content may speak to you in a helpful way ~ and note the links to addtional resources at the end of each: Traumatic Loss: Surviving A Sibling's Fatal Accident In Grief: Coping with Multiple Losses Coping with Cumulative Losses
  6. I'm so sorry, Julie ~ but please know that you are always welcome here, no matter how often or how seldom you decide to visit us. Clearly you've had so much going on in your life that I doubt if you've had much time to pay attention to your grief ~ and now, with the hustle and bustle of the holidays behind you, there it is again, demanding your attention. I'm just wondering ~ did you ever find a qualified grief counselor to help guide you through these losses?
  7. I'm so sorry for your loss, my dear. I hope you'll let go of the notion that you must be strong for your kids. Letting them see your true reactions to the death of your beloved Sylvia gives them permission to feel their own feelings and teaches them that it's okay to mourn for those we've loved and lost. See, for example, Explaining Pet Loss to Children: Some Do's and Don'ts ❤️
  8. Darling photo, Kathy ~ thank you for sharing ❤️
  9. What an adorable photo of your boy, Connor's Mom! And Kathy, my heart hurts for you, too. I found this to be of comfort when my beloved Beringer crossed the Rainbow Bridge: https://youtu.be/WVt1pD0sT0k?list=PLF883820720ECEF6B
  10. You will find your own ways for mourning this loss, my dear ~ but reading some of the threads in this forum willl give you some idea of what has worked for others who've been where you are now. I found that going through all the pictures I'd ever taken of my beloved dog and making photo books for myself and my grandchildren helped immensely. (There are photo book services online that guide you through the process ~ e.g., Snapfish, Shutterfly, Mixbook.) I also made a list of all the silly nicknames I gave my dog over the years, and wrote down all the special qualities about him that I didn't want to forget. You can do that here if you like. Our Kay has devoted an entire thread to capture her memories of her beloved Arlie, here:
  11. Priceless . . . ❤️
  12. Your Connor is one handsome boy, and I am so very sorry for your loss. We have been where you are now, and we know how much it hurts. It's okay that you feel mad. And sad. And whatever else you need to feel. Sending wishes for comfort, peace and healing to your hurting heart. ❤️
  13. I'm so sorry, Kay. I know this must be so, so painful for you ~ especially so soon after losing Arlie. My thoughts and prayers are with you . . . ❤️
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