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  1. My oh my oh my, dear Kay! A puppy?! So adorable!!! He or she?? Name? We want details!!! ❤️
  2. Gwen,I suggest that you clear your browser's cache of cookies and re-boot your computer. Try that, and if it doesn't fix the problem, please let me know . . .
  3. Exactly. Clearly your Abby was special. She was what is known as your "heart dog." Many of the people you'll find here in this forum understand what that means, as many of us have loved and lost our own heart dogs too . . .
  4. Both you strong women bear testament to the fact that fire tempers steel. I'm so inspired by your resilience and determination to rise above life's hardships. ❤️
  5. Marg, I love how you describe your grandmother as fluffy. One night as I was giving my granddaughter a hug and tucking her in for the night, she told me I was squishy. I like fluffy even better! ❤️
  6. Amen to that, Kay. Of course you miss your friend, Anappa. We do not grieve for those we do not love. Your pain is a measure of how very much you loved your sweet girl who has died. I hope you will give yourself permission to cry ~ to acknowledge ALL the pain and heartache of grief, and to give in to all the feelings that are demanding your attention. It's like a pressure cooker. Once we open the valve a bit, the steam has a chance to escape ~ and if it weren't for the valve, eventually the pot would explode. I hope these articles will help a bit: Pet Loss: Why Does It Hurt So Much? Finding Crying Time in Grief Pet Loss: When Nothing Eases The Pain
  7. Simply adorable! ❤️ Thank Heaven for little girls ❤️
  8. Do keep us posted, Gwen. We are thinking of you as this mystery untangles ❤️
  9. My dear, I'm so sorry to learn of the death of your beloved brother. He sounds like a wonderful man, and I'm sure he's left a giant hole in your life and in your heart. Please know that losing a sibling is different from losing a parent. Siblings play a very different role in our lives, and if we are blessed enough to be close to them, there really is no other relationship that can take their place. They are the ones who shared our childhood, who shared many of the same memories, and the ones who know us almost as well as we know ourselves. One cannot measure the magnitude of such a loss. I hope you will allow yourself ample time and space to mourn this significant loss, and recognize that the severity of the grief you're experiencing now is in direct proportion to the relationship you have with your brother, and to the importance of the role he played in your life and in the lives of your family members as well. We do not mourn for those we do not love. Again, I am so very sorry for your loss ❤️
  10. Yes, Gwen, she can take it off when she isn't walking. She also has a lighter version to use when she is driving (it's her right foot). Fortunately it's a very clean break, no dislocation of bones, etc. The doc said since the break wasn't cross-wise, but rather straight along the top part of her foot, it wasn't as bad as it might have been.
  11. Yes, Karen, by all means, please be careful! Last week my sister tripped over a pillow on the floor (yes, a pillow) when she got up in the middle of the night ~ twisted her ankle and broke her foot! No pins or surgery required, but still, she is required to keep her foot in a "boot" for the next six weeks until it heals . . .
  12. Helping Another In Grief: Suggested Resources When Death Happens: Tips for Helping the Mourner What to Say (or Not) to A Person In Grief Look to Your Hospice for Grief Support
  13. I also invite you to read In Grief: After Caregiving Ends, Who Am I? ❤️
  14. My friend, I'm so sorry for your loss. As you say, your relationship with your mum was complicated, so it's no surprise that the grief you're experiencing now is complicated too. I don't know what resources might be available to you where you live, but I hope you'll consider meeting with a qualified grief counselor who can help you sort through the guilt that you are feeling now. I also invite you to read this article, as I think it could have been written just for you: Complicated Grief: Mourning An Abusive Mother. As I've stated in that piece, when there are significant problems in a relationship and one of the parties dies, a lot of business is left unfinished, including arguments unresolved, words unspoken, questions unanswered, and love undeclared. As the survivor, you are left hanging in mid-air, unable to complete your relationship with the deceased, unable to mourn, and stuck in the pain of your grief. The challenge then becomes finding ways that you might finish some of that unfinished business. If you read the entire article, be sure to note all the resources listed at the base. You say that you wouldn't want kids if they turned out to be like you. I hope you'll consider the fact that how you "turn out" is completely up to you, and your life isn't over yet. You still have the opportunity to be the man you wish to be ~ and you might consider that as the best way you could honor your mother. ❤️
  15. MartyT

    Meditation

    How Meditation Can Ease the Path of Grieving By Suzanne Boles December 2, 2019 Four months after becoming sick, my husband took his last breath and my life changed completely as I went from “we” to “me” and began the inevitable, intense journey of grieving. Soon after, a friend invited me to meditate with a group of women. But the timing wasn’t right for me. Grief takes away your ability to focus, and my mind wasn’t ready to settle down for quiet contemplation. As a writer and journalist, I followed my instinct, researching tools that might help. Of course, it’s impossible to get a magic pill or learn something new that will remove the heartache. But mindfulness and meditation were recurring words in my research. Read on here >>>
  16. So good to see you here again, dear one. We miss your *<twinkles>* (and sprinkles of fairy dust) as well as your beautiful writing.❤️ I'm glad your dear mother came to you in such a magnificent and meaningful way, and I'm sure she is extremely proud of her daughter's efforts to bring about the passage of this Executive Order protecting reservation women. Blessings of peace and love from our hearts to yours . . .
  17. Dear Ones, Since it was launched in May of 2003, our Grief Healing Discussion Groups site has served close to 10,000 registered members, along with countless visitors who come here on a daily basis to browse. Thanks to the active participation of our most loyal followers and their willingness to share with one another their personal experiences with loss, our site continues to serve as a virtual support group, offering compassion, comfort and support to the bereaved and to those who care for them. I am pleased that over the last 16 years of daily operation we’ve managed to keep our site free of commercial advertising! While my work here remains for me a labor of love, it still requires countless hours each month to research and share the valid and reliable information about grief that we offer here, as well as the time it takes to administer, monitor and moderate the site ~ and of course it costs money to sustain it. I want you to know that your support really matters, and it makes a difference. I am deeply grateful for those few generous and loyal members whose regular contributions have kept us going. If you already donate to our site, please accept my heartfelt THANK YOU. If you’ve yet to make a donation, might you consider doing so now? If you’ve found any of the information, comfort and support you need and deserve in our forums, please consider becoming a patron with a recurring monthly donation of your choosing ~ somewhere between the cost of a cup of coffee and the price of a good meal. If that is too much for you to afford, please know that a one-time donation in any amount is acceptable and deeply appreciated. Just click on the yellow Donate button you’ll find at the top of our home page (or click on any of our forum titles and find the Donate button at the top of the page) and follow the instructions. And thank you very much for your support! With a grateful heart, Marty T ❤️
  18. Dear Ones, Since it was launched in May of 2003, our Grief Healing Discussion Groups site has served close to 10,000 registered members, along with countless visitors who come here on a daily basis to browse. Thanks to the active participation of our most loyal followers and their willingness to share with one another their personal experiences with loss, our site continues to serve as a virtual support group, offering compassion, comfort and support to the bereaved and to those who care for them. I am pleased that over the last 16 years of daily operation we’ve managed to keep our site free of commercial advertising! While my work here remains for me a labor of love, it still requires countless hours each month to research and share the valid and reliable information about grief that we offer here, as well as the time it takes to administer, monitor and moderate the site ~ and of course it costs money to sustain it. I want you to know that your support really matters, and it makes a difference. I am deeply grateful for those few generous and loyal members whose regular contributions have kept us going. If you already donate to our site, please accept my heartfelt THANK YOU. If you’ve yet to make a donation, might you consider doing so now? If you’ve found any of the information, comfort and support you need and deserve in our forums, please consider becoming a patron with a recurring monthly donation of your choosing ~ somewhere between the cost of a cup of coffee and the price of a good meal. If that is too much for you to afford, please know that a one-time donation in any amount is acceptable and deeply appreciated. Just click on the yellow Donate button you’ll find at the top of our home page (or click on any of our forum titles and find the Donate button at the top of the page) and follow the instructions. And thank you very much for your support! With a grateful heart, Marty T ❤️
  19. Dear Ones, Since it was launched in May of 2003, our Grief Healing Discussion Groups site has served close to 10,000 registered members, along with countless visitors who come here on a daily basis to browse. Thanks to the active participation of our most loyal followers and their willingness to share with one another their personal experiences with loss, our site continues to serve as a virtual support group, offering compassion, comfort and support to the bereaved and to those who care for them. I am pleased that over the last 16 years of daily operation we’ve managed to keep our site free of commercial advertising! While my work here remains for me a labor of love, it still requires countless hours each month to research and share the valid and reliable information about grief that we offer here, as well as the time it takes to administer, monitor and moderate the site ~ and of course it costs money to sustain it. I want you to know that your support really matters, and it makes a difference. I am deeply grateful for those few generous and loyal members whose regular contributions have kept us going. If you already donate to our site, please accept my heartfelt THANK YOU. If you’ve yet to make a donation, might you consider doing so now? If you’ve found any of the information, comfort and support you need and deserve in our forums, please consider becoming a patron with a recurring monthly donation of your choosing ~ somewhere between the cost of a cup of coffee and the price of a good meal. If that is too much for you to afford, please know that a one-time donation in any amount is acceptable and deeply appreciated. Just click on the yellow Donate button you’ll find at the top of our home page (or click on any of our forum titles and find the Donate button at the top of the page) and follow the instructions. And thank you very much for your support! With a grateful heart, Marty T ❤️
  20. Dear Ones, Since it was launched in May of 2003, our Grief Healing Discussion Groups site has served close to 10,000 registered members, along with countless visitors who come here on a daily basis to browse. Thanks to the active participation of our most loyal followers and their willingness to share with one another their personal experiences with loss, our site continues to serve as a virtual support group, offering compassion, comfort and support to the bereaved and to those who care for them. I am pleased that over the last 16 years of daily operation we’ve managed to keep our site free of commercial advertising! While my work here remains for me a labor of love, it still requires countless hours each month to research and share the valid and reliable information about grief that we offer here, as well as the time it takes to administer, monitor and moderate the site ~ and of course it costs money to sustain it. I want you to know that your support really matters, and it makes a difference. I am deeply grateful for those few generous and loyal members whose regular contributions have kept us going. If you already donate to our site, please accept my heartfelt THANK YOU. If you’ve yet to make a donation, might you consider doing so now? If you’ve found any of the information, comfort and support you need and deserve in our forums, please consider becoming a patron with a recurring monthly donation of your choosing ~ somewhere between the cost of a cup of coffee and the price of a good meal. If that is too much for you to afford, please know that a one-time donation in any amount is acceptable and deeply appreciated. Just click on the yellow Donate button you’ll find at the top of our home page (or click on any of our forum titles and find the Donate button at the top of the page) and follow the instructions. And thank you very much for your support! With a grateful heart, Marty T ❤️
  21. Dear Ones, Since it was launched in May of 2003, our Grief Healing Discussion Groups site has served close to 10,000 registered members, along with countless visitors who come here on a daily basis to browse. Thanks to the active participation of our most loyal followers and their willingness to share with one another their personal experiences with loss, our site continues to serve as a virtual support group, offering compassion, comfort and support to the bereaved and to those who care for them. I am pleased that over the last 16 years of daily operation we’ve managed to keep our site free of commercial advertising! While my work here remains for me a labor of love, it still requires countless hours each month to research and share the valid and reliable information about grief that we offer here, as well as the time it takes to administer, monitor and moderate the site ~ and of course it costs money to sustain it. I want you to know that your support really matters, and it makes a difference. I am deeply grateful for those few generous and loyal members whose regular contributions have kept us going. If you already donate to our site, please accept my heartfelt THANK YOU. If you’ve yet to make a donation, might you consider doing so now? If you’ve found any of the information, comfort and support you need and deserve in our forums, please consider becoming a patron with a recurring monthly donation of your choosing ~ somewhere between the cost of a cup of coffee and the price of a good meal. If that is too much for you to afford, please know that a one-time donation in any amount is acceptable and deeply appreciated. Just click on the yellow Donate button you’ll find at the top of our home page (or click on any of our forum titles and find the Donate button at the top of the page) and follow the instructions. And thank you very much for your support! With a grateful heart, Marty T ❤️
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