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  1. I'm so sorry, Lindsay, that this is happening to you and your husband. Dealing with a lost fur baby is agonizing, and I know how much this hurts. I offer this article to you, in hopes that it contains some of the tips you're seeking: When A Pet Goes Missing
  2. (and I, for one, am glad to know that you and your grandson won't be going to China at this time, dear fae!) ♥️
  3. I hope for your sake that you will keep this in mind, my dear, because your reaction of having lost faith in your relationship is justified. As you said, once you mentioned your friend's passing "he stopped responding." So when you were the one in need of comfort, this man's response was to withhold that from you. Might this give you some indication of the extent to which you can depend on him when life gets tough in the future ~ as life most surely will?
  4. You have many strengths, my friend, and it's good to know that you are aware of them and willing to use them. They will get you through this. One day, one hour, one moment at a time. ♥️
  5. Mark, my dear, I hope the warm and compassionate responses you're receiving from our members brings you some small measure of comfort and peace, and I too am so sorry for your loss. Having been consumed with your role as a caregiver for so long, it's no wonder that, among other things, you feel as if you've lost your bearings. When you feel ready to do so, I invite you to read this: In Grief: After Caregiving Ends, Who Am I? ♥️
  6. See these threads also: Mediums Mediums
  7. Adorable! Thank you for sharing ~ and what a wonderful memory this must be for you! Bittersweet now, but one you will treasure always. ❤️
  8. I am so sorry for your loss, Gloria, and for the traumatic circumstances surrounding your mother's death. I offer the following in hopes that its content speaks to you in a helpful way: Guilt In The Wake of A Parent's Death ~ and be sure to follow some of the links listed at the base. ❤️
  9. Yes, as Kay says, there are things we can do to help us "manage" our grief. I think the worst thing we can do is just to sit and wait for time to pass, as if the passage of time alone will fix it for us. Time is neutral; it's what we DO with the time that makes the difference. For example, take a look at the Tools for Healing forum on this site, along with our Tools for Healing Pinterest board, and read through Bereavement: Doing The Work of Grief. Note the related resources listed at the base, too. You don't say what, if anything, you've done to honor and preserve your memories of your beloved companion. Might you think of some creative ways you could do that? See, for example, Memorializing Pets We Have Lost. ❤️
  10. From my heart to yours, and on behalf of all our members and visitors, thank you! Your kind words and your support are appreciated, most especially by me! ❤️
  11. I'm pleased that you've found us, but so sorry that your little toy poodle's death is the reason, my dear. Do allow yourself to mourn this loss, and when you are ready, we'd love to read some of those stories and see a picture or two of your loving, loyal little guy. ❤️
  12. My dear, I hope that reading through so many of the threads you'll find in this forum will help you come to terms with the momentous decision you had to make. I don't see how any true animal lover can make the euthanasia decision without feeling the guilt and regret that you so accurately describe. After all, this is a life and death decision, and once made, there is no going back. If you do some reading here, you'll find links to several helpful articles about this. See, for example, Guilt in The Wake of the Euthanasia Decision ~ and be sure to follow some of the links listed at the base.
  13. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this challenging time, dear Gin ❤️
  14. My friend, on the one hand I can assure you that thoughts of suicide are not unusual in grief (see, for example, Thoughts of Suicide in Grief). On the other hand, judging by what you have posted here, I must emphasize that this site is not intended for individuals who are in crisis and actively contemplating suicide. If you're thinking of suicide, read this first. If you are experiencing serious suicidal thoughts that you cannot control, please stop now and telephone 911 or call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Using your smart phone, contact the Crisis Text Line by texting HOME to 741741.
  15. Hello, Jaye, and welcome to this forum ~ although I am terribly sorry for the reasons that brought you here to us. You've had way more than your fair share of significant losses, and I agree completely with your statement that grief should not be borne alone. I offer the following in hopes that their content may speak to you in a helpful way ~ and note the links to addtional resources at the end of each: Traumatic Loss: Surviving A Sibling's Fatal Accident In Grief: Coping with Multiple Losses Coping with Cumulative Losses
  16. I'm so sorry, Julie ~ but please know that you are always welcome here, no matter how often or how seldom you decide to visit us. Clearly you've had so much going on in your life that I doubt if you've had much time to pay attention to your grief ~ and now, with the hustle and bustle of the holidays behind you, there it is again, demanding your attention. I'm just wondering ~ did you ever find a qualified grief counselor to help guide you through these losses?
  17. I'm so sorry for your loss, my dear. I hope you'll let go of the notion that you must be strong for your kids. Letting them see your true reactions to the death of your beloved Sylvia gives them permission to feel their own feelings and teaches them that it's okay to mourn for those we've loved and lost. See, for example, Explaining Pet Loss to Children: Some Do's and Don'ts ❤️
  18. Darling photo, Kathy ~ thank you for sharing ❤️
  19. What an adorable photo of your boy, Connor's Mom! And Kathy, my heart hurts for you, too. I found this to be of comfort when my beloved Beringer crossed the Rainbow Bridge: https://youtu.be/WVt1pD0sT0k?list=PLF883820720ECEF6B
  20. You will find your own ways for mourning this loss, my dear ~ but reading some of the threads in this forum willl give you some idea of what has worked for others who've been where you are now. I found that going through all the pictures I'd ever taken of my beloved dog and making photo books for myself and my grandchildren helped immensely. (There are photo book services online that guide you through the process ~ e.g., Snapfish, Shutterfly, Mixbook.) I also made a list of all the silly nicknames I gave my dog over the years, and wrote down all the special qualities about him that I didn't want to forget. You can do that here if you like. Our Kay has devoted an entire thread to capture her memories of her beloved Arlie, here:
  21. Priceless . . . ❤️
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