Hi Stephen, I really want to thank you for replying to my letter. Unfortunately I have always been seen as the bad kid in our family, my father truly meant what he said, although I do believe it has alot to do with his greif. My mother did not stick up for me, she didnt say anything. I did actually say to him is this what you really think? He said yes its what he thinks, he blames me Its just so sad because we have a really small nuclear family, just my parents, myself, my brother, and I have two daughters. My brother was estranged from the family for six years, only came back in when he realized our sister was dying. Now none of us really speak to one another and its hurtful to me and especially my daughters. My sister and I were extremely close and she was the only one I could turn to, now thats gone. I just really needed to talk to someone about this, as I now know that its no use talking to my dad, my mom is a bit better but I sense that she is disssapointed in me as well. I was unable to see my sister near the end because she was staying with them and they live far from me and I dont have a vehicle. I feel so guilty about this, so ashamed. So I thank you for your kind words. Thanks, Adrienne