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I understand how your brother feels. I too feel like my family has been taken away. I am 37 and my dad died when I was 23 and my mom died a few months ago. My grandparents all died a long time ago. Does you brother have kids? If he is really alone then I would suggest he see a therapist. 9 years is a long time to be sad. He should also get out and do something social. He also has to realize that our departed relatives do not want us to feel sad forever. We still have our lives to live.

Thanks for posting that. My mom died in January 2004 from ovarian cancer and I'm feeling pretty lost. I've been doing a lot of research into contact from the deceased and it can happen apparently, although it can take years. It seems to be that the deceased will appear to us when they think we are ready.