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izzylight

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  1. I recently lost my father. the 31st of may between 11am and midday british time. He had been in hospital since 27th of april due to being violently attacked outside my home. I am 28 and my father brought me up since i was four years old when my mother died from a massive heart attack as she had had cancer for years and it had gone from the breast to her heart. She was 43 years old. she didn't know she was going to die, my father and elder sister decided to keep it from her so she could enjoy her last weeks happy. Back to my father, he was 71 when he died, i was born late in life to both of them. He didnt live in this country (UK), he was visiting my sister, myself and the remainder of his brothers and sisters. It was about ten oclock at night, we were all asleep, dad, me and my 6 year old daughter. my fiance had gone out for the night. when i was woken to banging on my back door and someone shouting my name. the person had also been knocking at the front but i ignored it and hoped they'd go away. so i threw on some clothes and went down to see the person. i let him in and he wanted some money that i'd owed him from a few weeks before. i cannot mention names and have to be careful as the murder case is comoing up and im the prime witness. I couldn't find my hand bag anywhere and didn't want to wake dad or my daughter. earlier i had been to visit friends and thought i may have left it at one of their houses. so me and the person (who i'd always gotten along with, but didn't know he had a record and had been to jail for violence and badly injuring a person before). As we came back and couldn't find my handbag, he was about to go home or whatever when we saw his girlfriend talking to my dad at my front door. my dad went back inside and nothing was said between dad myself and the person with me. but his girlfriend started to walk off up the lane next to my house toward her car screaming obsenities at me accusing me of having an affair with her boyfriend (the man i was with). he tried telling her we were looking for my handbag but she cntinued to threaten to kill me and beat me up, but not in such words. so i made the fatal mistake of asking her to come back so we could talk it through as im in love with my fiance and she was being irrational. she ran or walked fast and grabbed my hair and started a fight. so me and her are rolling around the floor and she is screaming obsenities still. the man was telling her to leave me alone and to let go of my hair as i was innocent in all of this. then suddenly im hit hard in the bridge of the nose with something hard. it later turns out it was a plank of wood. my poof frail father had heard the fighting and had come out in his pjs and tried to get the wood between us to stop the fight. he never meant to hurt me, he was one of the most gentle of men i have ever known. he woulnt have been trying to hurt the other girl either, i know this to be true. the woman ran off and my dad took say 3 steps after her to make sure she had gone. he had dropped the wood at this point. the man ran after his girlfriend. my father was bent over me saying,"my babe, im so sorry, i didnt mean to hurt you". the next thing the man was back pulling my dad away from me an started to beat him so bad i cannot even begin to discribe it. the man was a boxer and aged 23 so you can begin to imagine. i tried twice to get between them as forensic evidence proves. i was screaming so loud " leave him, hes my dad, hes old, please. please". i dont know how long it went on for, maybe 2 minutes, probably less. my dad was begging him to stop too. i will never in my life forget what i saw that night and what brutality and evil surrounds us. mt father suffered a brain hemmoridge thet night then another 2 days later and also a stroke. they said in the hospital that he, if he survuved wouldnt be the same again. i have to go now as the tears are blurring my vision. thank you so very much for listening. no one seems to understand me at the moment. p.s. the have the guy in custody within 10 hours of it happening. he is remanded in custody untill the trial. i just wish life imprisonment was 25 years like in the US. its only 15 in the UK. love to you all who are grieving, izzy
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