Iowa

Frannie, thank you for replying. I will talk to my hus., but I can't right now. My emotions are still to raw. And to make matters worse he lied to me about what time Lucie got killed. He let her outside just minutes after I left. And was killed shortly after that. But when it comes to my furbabies he ignores everything I try to tell him or what the vet says. Examples: Don't feed the dogs chicken bones or chocolate, he does. Don't feed Spike {MinPin} people food, he gets sick and it's a trip to the vet. He does. Don't grain the horses anymore, one is over weight and the other horse foundered last spring. He buys more grain and doesn't tell me. This goes on and on. Our calf died last year because hus. let a friend bring out bushes to burn out in the pasture. The bushes were Japanese Yew, very deadly to animals and humans if digested. I asked him over and over again not to let anyone bring bushes, junk, etc. out here, because there was a danger to my animals, plus the fact that he wouldn't put the horses and calf in the small pasture to keep them away from the fire. These "accidents" could have been avoided. Last Feb. we had a nine year old English Mastiff that was dying from heart failure. It was me that had to take him to vet, alone, to have Gill-T put to sleep. He was cremated and buried out back with my other kids. Three years ago we had a yearly colt that got hurt and went down in his stall and couldn't get back on his feet. It was me again that had to call the vet to put Blaze to sleep. Four years ago, within that same year, I had to call the vet out to put to sleep our Rottie and Dobbie. They both had a fast acting cancer. My husband wanted no part on these decessions, it was left up to me. Getting patted on the back and told "it's to late now" or "you can't do anything about it now" I can get from a stranger. I'm sorry if I sound cold and hard towards my husband. But I'm fed up with his lack of caring and taking no responsibility for his actions when it involves a living creature that is is in care, at the time, that depends and relies on him to keep them safe and out of harms way. I will never forgive myself for Lucie's death, I should have had her on her tie out before I left. Hopefully as the months pass I won't be so bitter. Even typing this all down helps. Thank you for your understanding and caring.

Itshoemake, I am so sorry for your lose. What a wonderful 14 years you gave him! The pain you are feeling will decrease, day by day, week by week. In the last fews years I had to make the same kind of decission {sp.} In less than one year I had to put to sleep Kasey, a wonderfil female Rottie and Randall, a Dobbie. They both had a fast killing cancer. I understand what you are going through right now. I still miss them both deeply, but I know in my heart it was the right thing to do. I'm sure your little guy was suffering and in pain. We all tried to protect our pets from harm, but try to remember they are all God's creatures and He decides when it is time to call them home. You were very honored for having 14 years with your Chisum. Take care, you are in my thought and prayers.

Saturday, April 24th Lucie, my 13 month old Minature Pinscher was killed by a hit and run driver. They never stopped, or came to our door, nothing. I wasn't home when it happened, if I was home she would still be alive. My hus. let her outside and didn't put her on her tie out, knowing that she chased cars. We live in the country but it is still not safe to let a pet run loose. I have never felt so much anger towards my hus. as I do now. We haven't spoken a word to each since then. The only thing he said was "you should have tied her up before you left". I buried her and cried all alone. Lucie was my sunshine, my baby. She was full of life and loved to tease and play with the other dogs. She slept on my shoulder and would always cuddle with me. Now nothing, it's all gone.