I haven't logged on here for a long time, but am feeling as though I need some advise or a guiding hand in the month coming. My dad was killed in an accident on the 16th December 2006, and it is his birthday in 3 days. I just feel very anxious and scared about how I'm going to get through his birthday, the anniversary of his death, Christmas, and my birthday (which happens to be Christmas Day) all in a matter of weeks. I used to love Christmas so much, probably because its my birthday too, and every year is a celebration, no matter what, but this year I feel so different about it. Last year wasn't as hard, even though we had just lost dad 9 days before, but I think then it was all so surreal, and hadn't sunk in yet. But this year, I just want to skip it all. I guess I haven't really dealt with the loss of my dad, and I think its because I just don't want to..... I'm also scared to go to my boyfriends christmas party this year, because I was at his christmas party last year when I found out about dad, and the party is the night before his 12 month anniversary. My boyfriend has already told me that I don't have to go if I don't feel up to it, but I think I will probably feel worse if I'm sitting around at home. Anyway, I'm sorry to load this onto all of you, but I guess every now and then it feels nice to let out the feelings I am having. I have also been thinking about going to see a councillor / psychiatrist and just want to know whether people have done this and would recommend it. Thanks for listening. M.