Jolee, I'm not going to tell you it gets better or to get over it because I don't know if we ever will. My husband died suddenly last Aug. It seems like yesterday and my pain is there every day. I experienced a lot of the same things you described the first months after his death. You go thru the emotions of living but you really aren't. You do what is expected of you but you really aren't there. I thought this last March I was OK, so took a short trip to see his grown children who couldn't come when Bob died and also to take care of some real estate business in another state. The trip only made it worse. The worse depression set in when I returned. They say you go thru stages of grief and when those stages are going to hit, we just don't know. But allow youself time to go through them. I am and I don't care how long it takes. I know as the year annivesary approaches, I am going to have a difficult time. We were married for 23 yrs. and together 25 yrs. I don't think anyone has the right to expect us to do our healings in weeks or months when we have lost the loves of our lives. The pain for me today, is like this all happened yesterday even tho it's been ten and a half months. When people tell me it will get better, I ask them to give me a date when this will happen, and then they are usually silent. Please, Jolee, give yourself time, all the time you need and no one knows better than you how much time that is.
