I am so upset about mom's death last month, but I can't grieve with my family because their primary concern is how to get the most of her estate. I cry for hours at night when I'm alone because that's the only time I feel safe. During the day I feel like I'm swimming in a sea of sharks. I have only one brother. He has never seen me as a sister, but has only seen me as a barrier to getting all of the inheritance. I was the one who lived out of state and he lived nearer mom, but mom and I talked 3 times per week and visited and had a great relationship. In fact even though he lived next door I talked to her more than he did. I always told mom that my brother and his wife and family only fake it and act like "family" when I come to town, but mom didn't want to believe that. Now that she's gone he has told me the truth >>>that they really did fake it all those years and now that mom's gone they don't have to any more. Now that mom's gone I don't have a family. They are only out to get what they can from the estate and they have stayed in close contact with the financial issues all these years.............I have not. The problem is that I feel like I need to grieve at this time, but I also have to be smart and protect myself financially....this is so painful. I wonder how many other fmailies are this dysfuncional. I'm thankful to have a place to write this down and get it off my chest.