Lea

I know what all of you are saying. Besides the loss of my mom my daughter moved out of the country to go to school for her masters degree. I am so very proud of her yet I can't help feeling lost. I feel as though I lost my mom and my daughter. I miss them both so much. Sometimes, I just need to be alone to cry and grieve. I can talk to my daughter and for that I am so thankful I just miss my mom so very very much. I too took care of her those last months and I even miss them. At least she was here and we could talk. I don't miss her suffering just miss being able to hold her and talk. She was such a good woman and always full of wisdom and advice.

It has now been 7 months the 30th of this month. It feels like yesterday that I lost my mom, my best friend. I have a friend that I have had my entire life who does not understand what I am going through. Shortly after my mom passed my friend, her husband, my husband and myself went out of town for a weekend trip. I was numb and all I could think about was my mom. Yet no one wanted to talk about her (except my husband and myself). My friend and her husband only wanted to discuss politics. We do not agree politically and the last thing I wanted to hear was politics. I had just lost my mom. I became very short with my friend and her husband and now she won't even talk to me. She thinks that I am being rude and selfish. Yet, during my mom's illness she was there the last week helping me take care of her. She knows how close we, my mom and I were. She thinks I should just "get over it". I don't understand how someone that you have known your entire life can be so cold. I apologized to her for being short yet she still can't find it in her to even talk with me. I guess I really don't need her "friendship" if she can't even try to understand the intensity of the grief and pain that I am going through. I thought that she would be here for me and my family and instead she has made life more difficult for all of us. Myself and my family are very close to the rest of her family. This has caused a lot of unnecessary turmoil for all of us. Now when there are get togethers either she is left our or I am. My mom would be so very upset as she thought that of this friend as another of her daughters. Has anyone else gone through this type of a situation?

I too am so, so, very depressed. I experience physical pain in my back, neck and stomach. I miss my mom so much. My mom also had "all the answers". She was a very kind, loving and wise woman. I miss asking her what she thinks and just listening to her advice. I miss being with her and taking care of her and she of me and my family. I am 55 but can't seem to move on. She passed in June. Today for some strange reason has been one of the hardest days for me. I don't even know why. I just ache to talk with my mom. I know the holidays are going to be awful. My mom loved to bake for Christmas. Oh how I miss her. One of my dearest friends that I have my known my entire life has quit talking with me. I think she can't bear to hear me talk about my mom. It's strange when you need people the most sometimes they just aren't there. So, I am glad that I found this site and am able to vent to others who understand. I am afraid to see a counselor as I am afraid I will severely loose it. I can express myself better writing. As Chuckles said "I just want my mom back. She'd have all the answers.....

Dawn, I too, lost my mom 4 months ago. The pain is so strong and heavy. I sometimes don't know how I can go on. My mom always said God never gives us more than we can handle. I often wonder how much does he think I can handle. My mom was my best friend and I know how you feel. I find myself being jealous of my friends that still have their moms. They don't even know what a blessing it is. My life will never be the same without my mom. I still had so much to learn from her. She was an exceptional woman and everyday seems to get harder and not better. I never knew how strong this pain could be. Yet, I know that I must go on and hopefully someday the pain will lessen.