TeresaBennett

well everyone were all on a up hill waterfall with a hole in the canoe what do we do ? well 1 of us can patch the hole another can balance the canoe thats way we can all take turns freaking out were all human we forget that at these bad times my dads been gone a month its all a bad nightmae its all over but the tears like he use to say.We have to realize our loved ones didnt want to leave us just it was time.out of there control my dad use to tell me few months before he died he said it kills me to think im hurting you all and im failing leaving he said it made him just want to cry .so our loved ones had the hardest part they had to take this last journey alone,An they have us all here to carry on all the happy memories and all they taught us to carry there names on so they are all still much very alive in all of us that love our loved ones who have passed bless everyone when you lay down to sleep dont cry because you have god and your loved one watching over you while you sleep .Teresa Bennett

We went to my dads families house in Indiana we all had a great jpuful day talking about Dad and all he accomplished in his life.My Mother who had been divorced from him for 23 years and her husband also went.There was dads brothe and 2 sisters and all my cousins they had a new obituary made right for around Indiana the one here in ky was spelled wrong and things weren't done like dad would have wanted.So they paid for it to be correct his name and all the other stuff.It was still missing something my Dad I would be quiet most of the day I remember him teasing his siblings and being happy It was over all a Great day. We looked at old pictures of my dad when he was 18 on up til 64 when he died nov 25,2007.My step mom I guess just stayed home alone or maybe her family came to be with her shes kind of seperated from the rest of us and my dads family hasnt gotten over the fuss she made at his funeral .yelling caring on telling his family he didnt want them there crazy stuff maybe she was referring to our mother not sure she was out of her head.Well my Family wishs all your families a Happy New Year and smaile when you think of your loved ones heres a great passage they printed with my dads obituary....... Afterglow I'd like the memory of me to be happy one, I'd like to leave an afterglow of smiles when life is done I'd like to leave an echo whispering softly down the ways. Of happy times and laughing times and bright and sunny days I'd likethe tears of those who grieve. to dry before the sun Of happy memories that I leave when life is done. Happy Holidays Teresa Bennett

READ THIS POEM IT MAKES ME FEEL BETTER Teresa Bennett

Claire , I know what you mean my dad died Nov 25 ,2007 of lung cancer he only lived 4 half months after digonosed his heart just raced at the end I stepped out to smoke when he died he had 6 friends and step om there when he took his last breath before I went outside i whispered in his ear Kenny my brother and I understand if he needs to go we will be fine.We had just shaved and sponge bathed him and gave him morphine for the pain he didn't suffer .I miss my dad so much I hope you will also get thru this painful time also I added a poem that helps me ..I hope it helps you also........ Teresa Bennett

My dad went home a month from Christmas day .I've just yesturday went and finished my 16 year old sons christmas shopping.I would be on my way to a store in traffic. I would start to cry then I would be ok Its like Im bipolar all the sudden I can't control when sadness strikes .Its unlike myself.I have always been in control of my surroundings and Emotions. I know dad is Home but,he just made Christmas fun and loved visiting his family in corydon Indiana and Leavenworth where he grew up and played basketball Leavenworth Indiana.Christmas Day my brother kenny and I will be going to my dads 2 sisters and baby brother for Christmas they have invited our mother and step dad it will be emotional for everyone.We will laugh and cry.I wish everyone from our family to yours Merry Christmas and of course a safe and Happy New year 2008 here we all come ..Teresa Beennet

I feel so happy for my dad how lucky he is to spend Christmas with the o mighty one himself.My dad I always thought was my highest power then he joined the big poer man I know sound silly but it gets me thru .My dad and me were very undrstanding of each other both silly strong willed and tough AS Nails even if I was a girl I just am stron I roll that way lol my dad was married 4 times im on my 3rd if it dosent work move on why be miserable.well Dad you are my guardian angel I miss you and love you alot meryy christmas

This place is great and uplifting I can't wait to get on here before I turn in and just see how everyone else gets thru these sad time I guess like me one day at a time .get up get dressed the rest is automatic like riding a bike it;s a bumpy ride but it will be ok after awhile .Thanks Teresa Bennett

My dad loved the Holidays of family and catching up he would pick on his young brother that out weighed him by 80 pounds.H was the oldest of 5 kids they grew up in Leavenworth Indiana he graduate in 1961 he played basketball and was always out going he joined he army in 62 and met my mom in Illinois when hew as stationed there. They married in 1966 .my mom was a city girl so when she went to leavenworth to meet the family she asked where the bathroom was grandma handed her a coat she just looked at everyone like what out house whats that.they divorced after 18 years my dad was a foreman at General Electric here in Louisville ky he worked there 66 to 98 32 years he was out he remarried a few times he was on his 4th marriage the last one for 10 years to a lady from tennessee originally.My dad was a competive out going person til he found out he had cancer in june of 2007 died nov 25 2007 it will be a month on christmas day he went home to our father.I thank god for letting me have a father like dad he was a agreat man in my heart.so instead of crying this christmas we should be jealpus where he will be for christmas wow Teresa Bennett

Tracey , You will be fine right now your facing ll the pain and not holding it inside thats great you will be ok with time .You will laugh and cry thinking of your mom just think you have a angel everywhere you go you can talk to your mom anywhere at anytime .Teresa heres a poem that makes me feel great

When I come to the end of the road and the sun has set for me I want no rites in a gloom filled room Why cry for a soul set free? Miss me a little...but not to long, and not with your head bowed to low Remember the love we once shared, Miss me... But let me go. For this is a journey that we all must take, And each must go alone It's a;; a apart of the Master's plan A step on the road to home. When you are lonely and sick at heart, Go to the friends we know, And bury your sorrows in doing good deeds, Miss me...But Let Me Go -- Author Unknown

I found its hard just to get up in the morning sometimes I feel more tired I know its mental dreams thoughs sadness,I went to family dinner at moms today shes been remarried 15 years my brother Kenny lives there he just turned 40 ,I asked him how he was doing with dad being gone he just rteturned the ? I said wekk nothing we can do he said thats true.Hes just staying to him self alot.He looks tired .I have good days and bad sep mom called kenny the other day she ordered dads head stone .so that will be done in 3 o 4 months i guess not sure what the time frame is.My step mom is like 13 years younger than my dad shes never supported her self there whole 10 year marriage she would work month here and there.she has 2 sons ones bipolar.alcholics mental problems.she has hard time gettin him to leave now that dads not there to control the situation.she had medical problems there whole marriage like strokes every other day back surgery gall bladder removed always something my dad had to take care of her .shes one of those people that loves attention always complaing.its funny my dads last 5 minths of his life she had no emergencies no strokes she actuallu was alright so we think what a shame all the faking shes done to get out of family functions with my dads bros and sisters.she attached his sisters and niece at the funeral said he didbt like then crazy stuff.over afghans and plantsd that were sighned to be given to his sisters she attached dads niece for grabbing her moms afghan.I remeber I sat in the car I didnt even go in I could see trouble coming It was unlike me I am, outspoken but the breath had been knocked out after buring dad I didnt care who did what or anything.well today my dad went home 3 weeks ago.teresa Bennett

Chuckles I see ou will be fine you have a sense of humor as I do.My dad died 3 weeks ago today from lung cancer he founf out 5 months before he died he was a great man he was only 64 still lots of energy and loved to run here and there but he got lost when they told him his fate I miss him so much Im not angry at him or god I just get lonely for his voice I had to erase his celll number off my contacts that was hard.you keep up the sense of humor you will be fine Teresa Bennett

It sounds like you were lucky like me my dad was a strong could do anything always a great provider leader at work and home .Hwas give 6 months to live back in june we were devastated.He died nov 25,2007 on a rainy sunday i stepped out to smoke and he died i ran in and closed his eyes while my step mom cried and begged him not to go .He was my hero my whole life I hung out in garage with him when I was young I did all the stuff my brother didnt want to do anything to spend time with a man I loved and adored .He mad me and kenny my brother strong people always telling s right from wrong he retired from General Electric in 97 32 years he was a foreman perfect attendance he got everything he tried for and all his workers from the ge said he was a fair man and was loved and respected by all I MISS YOU DAD Teresa Bennett

This picture was taken by my dads neighbors who loved him they thru him a christmas in october party they had confetti coming down on him he was smiling so big he loved it he was losing weight so he had big shirt on he looks so handsome I loved my daddio

My Dad's Poem to Me after He Died

I cant stop writing messages to my dad but it makes me feel better thanks for the message in the bottle link it really helps.Teresa Bennett

I didnt cry til the last week my dad was alive ,everyone my aunts mon my brother my husband it was like Teresa you can break down it dosent make you weak.I just fell apart in the end the wake i didnt cry .I couldnt understand my step mom grabbing at him asking him why he left her I thought its not his fault how selfish of you.At the funeral my dad planned the arrangements even his flowers and the music he loved Lorrie Morgan what about no dont you understand I was like oh my gosh then Elvis "I did it my way" I cried like a baby .It sounded just like my dads life regrets he had a few but 2 few to mention .He was a great man he raised his kids yes divorced mom but always responsible financially he never could understand men not taking care of there kids like these days. People at work watch me and if im quiet they will say you ok wanna talk .I finally told my boss yesturday I have good days some bad I cant control that he said Teresa I have both my parents I honestly cant imagine losing my dad I said me either hes everywhere now so I cant do anything he sees all lol.Im good today I feel my dad love all around me. Teresa Bennett

To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say... but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay. I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above. Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love. Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight. Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night. That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through, God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you." It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone. As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on. I need you here badly; you're part of my plan. There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man." God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do. And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you. And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight. God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night. When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears. But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain. Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain. I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned. But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand. But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er. I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before. There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb; but together we can do it by taking one day at a time. It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too... that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you. If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain, then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain." And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile, knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile. So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low, just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go. When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind; I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind. And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free, remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me. Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author) ©Copyright 1998-2007 http://www.ruthann1.com Teresa Bennett (Louisville, KY) This is the Poem I read when the pain feels so over bearing it gets me thru I put this poem with my dads obituary it eased some of his loved ones pain,I love you day Its been 2 weeks and 5 days since you went home.

You are feeling normal angry feelings I lost my dad last month nov 25 2007 he was the picture above the name dad I couldnt have imagined a better dad he made me strong and securre my whole life he got lung cancer dignoised back in june right after fathers day he was hoarse at diner that day. He was given 6 months we though this is a n9ightmare it cant be true we watched him lose weight he never complained he pre arranged all his funeral arrangements I went shopping with him to pick out his suit I remember It was a friday in july I asked to leave work early I met him and step mom there dad and I went pstairs at jcpenneys he was worried about the length I said why nobody will see it i giggled he looked at me serious and said I will it was the way he was he controlled everything but when he would die he thought about every detail he had a car payment so he made sure the bank put his wifes name on it or he would get a differnt bank it was so weird how well he did he faced all his fears yes he died but he still lives in my brother and I were only 10 months apart so we just remember all of our memories we miss him but god chose it was time for him to come home Teresa Bennett

My dad died over 2 weeks ago and 4 days to be exact I walked outside his home to smoke out silly that was he was dying of lung cancer he had been down only 4 days I felt a peacefullness when I went in to close his eyes my stepmom was scremaing telling him not to leave I said I love you daddy I know your spirit is everywhere now ,My dad took care of his self until the last week when my step mom and his sisters my niece me and my brother just watched we had never seen our father weak and not strong we were in denial we loved our dad so much he taught us right from wrong nd strength I thank god every day for my dad and mom I still have mom shes silly and thinks shes falling apart all the time my parents were divorced 22 years ago and my mom went over his last few days he would ask her to check his oxygen every time that made her feel good he would wake up and worry about step moms bills if there was food and drinks for all of us there he was so strong til the end iM sop proud to be his daughter,please just think of what made your dad happy when you were happy. Teresa Bennett

I feel the same as you Im not angry though your just going thru normal hurt mad feeling This will be my first christmas without my daddy he was 64 and died of lung cancer november 25 ,2007 a little over 2 weeks ago I catch myself thinking about something I wanna call hes not there so you know what I speak out I can talk to him where ever when ever I want and I can see him shaking his head at me like the other day I went to his grave site I wasnt at the right one and I laughed and walked to him You will be ok remember everything your dad taught you and make him proud you represent him now good luck laugh!!! Teresa Bennett

Shelley It wasnt your fault there is only 1 person that powerful to bring death he also brings life god has his reasons .He didnt want them to be miserable and suffer so thats why god took them ,Teresa Bennett

Wow you are a strong person I didnt have to become strong til 2 weeks ago when I lost my father to Lung cancer Ive had a pretty I guess stable life my parents were together til I was 16 then after 18 years my dad left but he always did the money to mom and dad stuff I miss him alot I couldnt imagine not ever knowing who my parents are wow Your life is a mystery so now you just need to say this is my life starting now dont waste your future looking for the past ,the past if it comes up it will it will find you stop looking just live and I wish you luck Teresa Bennett

Wow My mother does the redecorating think but It just makes her happy theres no rules to how we all act or do during these hard times we all are different and thats why theres no certain way to grieve do what makes you happy the mind needs to be filled with things that make you happy so decorate you go girl

Shelley Way to go you go girl