SIR, I am very sorry for your loss, and hope that you will find this place to be of some comfort. I just joined myself. I'm a 26 year old woman, and I lost my grandfather who i was very close with and loved dearly. I still cry almost everyday, and anything seems to set me off. I can understand how you might feel as I was very close to losing my mother last year, she had a kidney and pancreas transplant and that was a very strenuous time in my life as well. She is doing well, but there were a lot of complications with the operation and she didn' do very well for a long time. Just the possibility of losing her was a horrible thing, and I don't know how heartbreaking it is to actually go through such a thing. I am sorry that you are so heartbroken. It may be that being a guy, it is more difficult to have emotion validated by others in your life. I hope that you will find those who will affirm your right to feel loss and sorrow and grief. Your mom was your mom, and that is important and it leaves a big void in your life that takes time to heal. The wounds from such a loss may never heal, you may still find yourself missing her at specific moments 20 years down the road, I hope that as you grieve the loss, you will cleave to the fact that this is not a performance for anyone else. Your feelings are your own, and how you express them does not have to be in a set, clinical "how everyone else does it" type of style - May I commend you for your bravery at coming to such a place - I am so sorry for your loss SIR, i wouldn't doubt if feeling alone is common among grief survivors, because i've been especially lonely lately myself. people want you to "get over" it, but i don't think it is anything to get over...but rather to move through at your own pace ...minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day...step by step, tear by tear...... you are in my thoughts, bethann