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- Birthday 12/14/1961
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Jan 10,2008
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Sudbury, Ont. Canada
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I want to start a list of the couples here...I could name many of them but don't want to leave anyone out, so please add your name and the name of the spouse you lost...I want to pray for each of you in this new year. Kay and George Erica and Walter Scott and Kate
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Dear Karen, it is us who should be thanking you. You have been such a great inspiration here. When our grief gets us down to the darkest of space, your posts makes us realize that there is hope. Thank you! ..Scotty
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Haven’t posted for a while. Thought I was making some headway with all this but I guess not. Had my daughters high school graduation last week. She lives with her mother about 3 hours away. Should have been such a happy occasion for me but it was all I could do to stay til the end. Kate and I used to live there 10 years ago and it was the happiest time of our lives. Job relocation forced us to move here. First time I had been back that way since Kate passed away. Drove by our old house. Memories flooded in. I shouldn’t of had to attend this graduation alone. I had a kitchen remodel started 2 months ago and they just finished yesterday. Had some glass cabinets installed with the intent of displaying Kates’ pottery. Spent the day going through our workshop picking and choosing what pieces to put in there. Most of them are what she considered “rejects” for one reason or another. To me they’re the most beautiful creations on earth. I had no idea how such a simple task would affect me this way. Next week it will be 6 months and it feels like yesterday. I started seeing a grief counselor last month. No magic answers but I think it helps. At least he doesn’t shy away if I shed a tear. Hopefully it’ll get better soon. ….Scotty
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Not Doing Very Well......
Scotty replied to WendyJ's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Wendy, so sorry to hear about your mother. Timing for daughters' departure must be tough. You've been a rock around here, know we're all pulling for you. Please keep us informed on how your making out. Take care ....Scotty -
Great Quote That Puts Things Into Perspective
Scotty replied to KathyG's topic in Behaviors in Bereavement
Thank you for the post Kathy. I can take something from those words. ...Scotty -
So sory to hear Kay. She's lucky to have a friend in you. Take care ...Scotty
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So sorry to hear Kay. It sure seems some families do get more than their share of pain and suffering. Take care ....Scotty
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Starting From Scratch
Scotty replied to Scotty's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Thanks Deborah This idea of never been the same scares the hell out of me. We were so happy, so many plans for the future. Now, just getting through a day is a chore. Awfully tough going on with out anything to look forward to. Looking for some peace somewhere and have no idea where to look. ...Scotty -
Starting From Scratch
Scotty replied to Scotty's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Thanks Kayc, planning on spending some time here this weekend. Least here people understand what we're going through. Spent the week weeding her flower gardens. I'm new to this flower garden thing. Only pulled what I know are weeds, dandelions and grass. Sure I'll have some pretty weeds flowering later . I think the gardens look beautiful again this year but unfortunately, no one around to appreciate them. Such a shame. Kate took so much pride in them. This was always our time of year. Sure not the same doing it alone. ...Scotty -
Starting From Scratch
Scotty replied to Scotty's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Well, I took a week off work after Kates internment knowing full well I wouldn't be in shape to carry out my responsibilities. Glad I did, still pretty messed up. This feeling of being alone is a killer. So many hopes and plans for the future, all down the tubes now. Going to be another hellish weekend. ....Scotty -
Well, I buried Kates' ashes yesterday. Lots of people around, barbecue after and, like the funeral, everbody leaves and goes on with their lives. Thought I was a few baby steps ahead in this process, but realization hits pretty hard thinking I'm back to where I was 4 months ago. Started seeing a counciler a couple of weeks ago. Not sure if its helping, but not doing any harm. Hate this feeling. ...Scotty
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Introduction From A Recent Widower
Scotty replied to JoeA's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Hello Joe So sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. I lost mine 4 months ago to cancer and it feels like yesterday. Its an incredibly hard journey. This is great place to vent, we're all in the same boat here. No magic solutions to be found, but spend some time reading the present and past posts. Sure you'll find a lot of similarities to what your feeling. Friends and family mean well, but without experiencing what your going through, they are sometimes of little help. No need to wait til you spirits improve to post. Take care ...Scotty -
Another Milestone Without Bill
Scotty replied to KathyG's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Doesn't sound silly at all Kathy. I've got a lot of firsts coming up myself that are expected and some I'm discovering every day. Regardless if its watching the Steeelers draft or putting up the gazebo in the backyard after the snow goes, if its something we did with our loved ones, it hurts like hell doing it alone. It took a lot of courage to watch the draft picks knowing the pain it would cause. I tip my hat to you. Take care ...Scotty -
Patti, I guess 4 months isn't that long on this journey, just tired of "just getting by". Hoping some counselling may help. Been keeping myslf awfully busy and beginning to qustion if that is a good thing or am I just avoiding dealing with the grief. Gail, congrats on the upcoming grand babies. I look forward to the time when I can say I've had a good day. At this point I cant imagine it but yet realize that they will come. Art, I too wasn't sure about the idea of counselling either, but at this point I'll try anything. Managing this on my own sure isn't cutting it. I agree that most family and friends mean well, but with out going through it, they are clueless as to what we actually need.(as was I, 4 months ago)Take care ....Scotty
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For Scotty And Joea
Scotty replied to Dusky's topic in Loss of a Spouse, Partner, or Significant Other
Thanks John I'll keep an eye out for them. The more information, the better the understanding. ......Scotty